The Pros And Cons Of Stay-At-Home Mom

All mothers have the protective instinct for their children. So what happens if they have a baby then go back on the job and ended wanting to leave completely, they will not be able to leave until their contract is fully done and completed if they do not fulfill the contract they will be sent to court martial. So I leave that women should stay at home with their children because they can handle it way more than men can. Don’t get me wrong some men take care of their kids great but it’s better for a mom to stay home with them and make sure absolute everything is going okay and won’t have to stress about it as much when you are away from them.

Roughly four-in-ten mothers say they have taken a significant amount of time off from work (39%) or reduced their work hours (42%) to care for a child or other family member. Roughly a quarter (27%) say they have quit work altogether to take care of these familial responsibilities...(Patten, 2015 [see figure 3]).

There is data to support the idea of a mother taking time off or a woman reducing her working hours to part-time will hurt her significantly in the career world. The reason for this sudden break in a woman’s career being motherhood. The most popular reason for working less hours is in a law firm is for a mother to take care of her child. Taking this additional time off decreases the chances of the mother receiving a partnership immensely. When doing this, the mother also risks the idea of herself being seen as “not serious about her career”, permanently damaging her chances of promotion at the private practice. However, mothers are no less likely than childless women to receive a

Before we began to build our family, my husband and I were both working full time jobs at an upwards of 60 hours a week. This was practical at the time, but I knew I could not continue to do so with an infant. This led me to leave my job of 3 years just before giving birth. After a few months, I debated long and hard on returning to work. After very careful consideration, I decided the best thing to do for everyone would be for me to stay home. I knew that being a stay at home mom would be hard. More importantly, I also knew that my daughter needed me to be there for her. It helped me learn that the plan you may have for yourself may not be the best plan for everyone else; being able to compromise for loved ones is always important.

In her interviews with woman she was sure to interview very well educated women and those that strived for mere perfection. One thing is that the men in the lives of these women were not supportive and not mentioned of much. The men and society of today have placed a lot of responsibility on a woman’s shoulders when it comes to the child. It is the woman who makes the decision or is given the task to make the heavy decisions regarding the child’s future. Because of this many women choose to stay at home to be sure that the children will receive everything that they deserve and that they are not lacking in any area. Another issue that she reviews is that employers do not work with moms at all. For example she talked about the scenario where two moms brought a solution to their problem to management yet it failed to receive approval instead one mother was offered more money (Guest, 2011). Employers are not very flexible when it comes to mothers and don’t provide the proper care that is needed for a child. Since men are the ones that don’t carry the responsibility of the child’s well-being having proper day care is not a factor for them. Then there is the cost of day care which is high and can at times not compare to what the individual is making.

In addition, it has been noted that the access and time-span of maternity leave offered by a job greatly affects the amount of time it takes to return to work and future family-work relationships (Guendelman, Goodman, Kharrazi, & Lahiff, 2014). Those who were offered more than 12 weeks of maternity leave were more likely to return than those offered less (Guendelman, Goodman, Kharrazi, & Lahiff, 2014). Although this policy is highly complex, I chose to focus on impacts on gender roles, maternal health, children’s development, finances, and employer’s attitudes because these were the aspects that seemed to be abundantly clear throughout the research.

When looking at women who left their careers to stay home and raise children, “[a Wharton Business School] study revealed that 43% of the women surveyed stayed out the workforce longer than they expected, and 87”% of those who initially never planned to return to work changed their minds, whether due to economic pressures or a reawakened desire for professional challenge” (Young, 47). Many women in these situations are forced to justify their time away from the professional world and their previous work experience is

Sadly, I was mistaken. After reading the article Working Women are Hurting the Family by Richard Lowry, I was left with a bad taste in my mouth and a pounding headache. In his article, Lowry declares war on American society for bamboozling women into believing that they want jobs. In his opinion all women desire to be with their children and by selfishly choosing to get a job they are, in his words, “abandoning their children” at day cares and causing them to become aggressive.

Some problems come from not having an enough paid maternity leave. According to fastcompany.com, in Brazil, they are guarantee four to six-month maternity leave. They can come back to their job and have the option to work part time until the baby is one. Where women in the US do not have that option. Women also have problems balancing work and family. In the article, (Despite progress, women still bear a heavier load than men in balancing work and family by Kim Parker) Women continue to bear a heavier burden when it comes to balancing work and family, despite progress in recent decades to bring about gender equality in the workplace. A 2013 Pew Research Center survey found that among parents with at least some work experience, mothers with children under age 18 were about three times as likely as fathers to say that being a working parent made it harder for them to advance in their job or career (51% vs. 16%). A reason for fathers to say it is easy to have children and have a career is because they do not have all the responsibility a mother would have. Like how a mother will have to make meals and get kids ready for invites or when the child is sick the mother is usually the one that has to take off from work to get the child. According to the article from Kim Parker, about four-in-ten working mothers (42%) say that at some point in their working life, they had reduced their hours

Sex-based wage discrimination is against the law, as is stated in the Civil Rights Act of 1964. The same Act prohibits pregnancy discrimination and states that employers cannot refuse to employ a woman because of pregnancy or terminate her, force her to go on leave at an arbitrary point during pregnancy or penalize her because of pregnancy in reinstatement rights credit for previous service, and accumulated seniority. Family responsibilities typically still fall more heavily on women, and neither society nor employers have found good ways to mesh those with job demands. Employers see parental leaves as a lack of commitment to the job and therefore more likely not to give promotions to the female workers (Kleiner & Kuta, 2001:45-47). Women can get equal treatment, but mostly when they behave like traditional men and leave the primary family responsibilities at home. Many women choose to take time off or to work part-time to be with their children rather than stay on the job and mainly because of lack of day care and flexible job options (Kleiner & Kuta, 2001:45-47). Some women drop out of work force for as long as two or three years,

In the past 30 years, one of the most dynamic social changes in the history of the United States has taken place in the area of employment, specifically of women with children. Although, to some degree there have always been employed mothers, today a greater proportion of mothers are employed than ever before. Statistics show that in 1976, 48% of the population of women categorized as “married women with children” were employed and it increased to 62% in 1986 just 10 years later. What are the causes for this and how does it affect the children?

Mothers compared to their childless counterparts encounter greater disadvantages in wages, benefits, and perceived competence in the workplace. This phenomenon, also known as the motherhood penalty, is a consistent pattern found in the literature examining judgments and evaluations of working mothers. The differences in pay, promotion, and workplace evaluations between women with children and women without children cannot be explained by differences in job qualifications. This finding suggests mothers are discriminated for having children. Surprisingly, the disadvantages that accrue to mothers do not apply for fathers. Therefore, women with children are doubly discriminated for their gender and parental status. It is important to understand why parental status differentially affects men and women in the workplace in order to implement strategies to combat employer biases.

Being a working mom or a stay-at-home mom both has their benefits and drawbacks. Most of us don’t get the luxury to choose. Instead we must choose one or the other. I have had to make these choose several times throughout the eleven years since I became a mom. I will share with you some examples of the benefits and drawbacks that go with both being a working mom or a stay-at-home mom.

Women are able to contribute to society in more ways than by just being a mother. Meier, Musick, Flood & Dunifon (2016) mentions “maternal employment may provide a source of identity, self-worth, and welcome relief from daily care, potentially gener- ating greater appreciation and enjoyment in time with children” (p. 651, para. 2). Whether a mother wants to work or has to work to provide for her family, the extra income is beneficial to the child. When both parents work, it may mean that there is more disposable income which could allow for more family vacations and activities. Dual income families may also be able to afford a nicer home in a better school district. More income could also mean both parents may qualify for additional work benefits such as contributions towards 401K, medical benefits and child care tax savings. Childcare is not only beneficial for mother but for the child. Children learn social skills, have fun playing and learn from their teachers and other children. Having separation during the day can also make a child more independent and self-sufficient as they get older. Mothers who continue to work after having children will often have more career opportunities and are able to earn more money in the long run. Working moms may also teach children the importance of gender equality and show them that women can also focus on careers.

Some mothers can make the decision to stay at home and acquire the traditional homemaker job. Other mothers can choose to work outside of the home. Both of these decisions can come with many great benefits as well as a negative impact. The role a mother has to achieve has significantly changed over the last century. Throughout history working mothers as well as stay at home mother has changed and increased. Attitudes towards these two types of mothers have also differed. Working mothers have definitely grown and created a huge cultural switch. The triumphs and success of the working mother has been growing. Many questions have been raised if the mother’s employment outside of the home affects the child at home like childcare and less time spent with the kids. Benefits of the working mother like being a healthy role model toward a child to be independent and successful and build lives outside of the home have also been mentioned. Working mothers also experience positive emotions of happiness and self-accomplishment. Stay at home mothers have not been left behind either they also have been shown to have grown since the recession in 2008. They have picked up and have come back. Advantages and benefits also follow the life of the child whose mother is at home like familiarity and comfort for children. Although staying at home can be very rewarding for the child it is not so much for the mother. Stay at home mothers has been shown to experience more feelings of sadness and