The Pros of a Western Wedding over a Traditional Shinto Wedding

Arranged Marriages have been around since time can remember. An arranged marriage is a marital union between a man and a woman who were selected to be wedded together by a third party. Historically, arrange marriages were the main way to marry. In certain parts of the world, it is still the primary approach. There are two types of arrange marriages. The first is a traditional marriage where the children can, with strong objections, refuse to marry their soon to be spouse. In a forced marriage, the children have no say in the matter. Bread Givers shows an excellent representation of the pressures on children from their parents to be married against their will.

Arranged marriage is found in various cultures and countries around the world, including Afghanistan and other parts of the Middle East; having an arranged marriage is thought of as an Afghani tradition and has been a part of life for many families. The practice of arranged marriage has advantages and disadvantages; it can create more family power and give more financial security. Sadly being forced into a marriage can disrupt the independence of the engaged, most women stop their education when they become engaged resulting in many women being illiterate. This makes it impossible for them to be successful without depending on their husbands. Arranged marriage is found in many cultures throughout the modern world, though in a lot of cases it results in a happy family it can also be very limiting on women and often girls are married before they can give consent.

In our society, we wouldn’t consider arranged marriages as a normal thing we are, use to consensual heterosexual serial monogamy. But in some countries, they do consider arranged marriages normal. In India, arranged marriages have been apart of the Indian culture since the fourth century and many consider it a central fabric of Indian society (Arranged Marriages, Matchmakers, and Dowries in India, 2000). Pakistan also considers arranged marriages as normal in Pakistani culture elders of the family are considered wise and they are the ones who help pick out a spouse a family member (Arranged Marriages are the Part of Pakistani Culture, 2012). Japan still practices arranged marriage but now less than ten percent of marriages are arranged compared to half a century ago when about seventy percent were arranged(Tying the Knot, 1998). In China, they have marriage markets where parents line the pathways share with other parents their clippings they have on their child, hoping to find a good match for their child (Epatko, 2015). Still, today many countries consider arranged marriages normal.

There are many unique concepts in marriages in India that differ from American marriages, such as arranged marriages. According to statisticbrain.com, “88.4% of marriages in India are arranged marriages”. The idea of having families set you up with your significant other is viewed as a very odd concept to people of American culture. Many other norms and traditions generally seen in Indian weddings differ greatly from what you might see at a wedding in America. There are many differences such as the traditions before the wedding and what goes on during and after.

Also, this type of marriage is chosen because of social status. A rich family will want their heir to marry into a family that is worth their status. And lastly, very religious and cultural son and daughters will just agree to an arranged marriage because of the way they have been brought up since childhood and they know that they will not have to worry about their parents of not approving or rejecting of their choice of spouse.

There are many similarities and differences between the American wedding tradition and an Indian wedding tradition. Indian weddings have different attire, the groom doesn’t wait at the altar, and there isn’t a priest to facilitate the marriage. Though they have differences, they also have some of the same activities involved in the wedding. Both traditions have a get together at the end, both have pre-wedding ceremonies, and during the wedding someone has to give the bride away.

Just as in our society, men and woman of the Ju/'hoansi ultimately get to choose who they marry. At first, the Ju marriages are set up by parents. Although we might not think that we are set up with our mates, our parents do their best to put us on track to marry the type of guy or girl they think is the best fit for us. In both societies, if a marriage does not pan out, we have the right to get a divorce. If for some reason, one half of a marriage is not happy, they commit adultery just like we do. One of the most important aspects of the marriage relationship is the equal rights that men and women have. The Ju society is an egalitarian society (Lee 2003). This means that men and women have the same rights. In America, we are the same way, but upon further review, it seems that the Ju women have more power in their society than American women do in our culture.

Arranged marriages were also chose upon how you acted, how you look, etc. The Aztec Parents chose very wisely. The parents chose only women and men for marriage since they did not agree with same sex (gay) marriage.Once The Aztec marriage was settled, the lovers were allowed to get a divorce, both Men and Women had the right to do so.

Their families administered the wedding process before, during and after the ceremony. It appeared to be based upon who has the most land, how much money everyone had and more about the profit from the marriage. Marriages never developed off of the husband and wife’s feelings until the late eighteen hundreds, soon ideals began to shift. Soon people started detecting an increase of love, as explained in Colonial Williamsburg, “With the rise of the affectionate family, arranged marriages became a thing of the past. While parents expected to be consulted and offered advice or criticism freely, men and women chose their own marriage partners, and parents usually accepted their children’s choices,” (Maurer). Weddings exhibited less conventional traditions as the years moved on and, the parents became less and less involved in the decision making of their child’s spouse. This upset the parents because they did not collect any profit from their child’s marriage arrangement. While both partner’s choice became important during the wedding, the ceremony still placed many restrictions towards how women could act, and how they performed

Most people arrange marriages for their off springs because they think that they can find a more suitable mate for their offsprings and they believe that their offsprings should be married to someone of their own family status, the same salary and the same religion. Marriages continue to be arranged in order to enhance family resources, reputation, and alliances, and because parents and older relatives feel that they are more qualified than young people to make such decisions. In today's society parents are giving their children more power (not all the power) to make somewhat of a decision on who they're going to get married to. Some families still have strict rules on who their offsprings are going to marry but they still give

In the film (Arranged, 2007), it tells a story of two women who are going through an arranged marriage. Arranged marriage is something that is seen in traditional cultures, not really seen in modern western culture. Modern western culture and traditional cultures are very different. Patriarchy is followed in the home of these families, where the father sets the rules. Dating is also done differently. In traditional cultures, women have arranged dates with men, whereas in modern western culture people can decide who to go on a date with. Touching is also different, women from traditional cultures are not

Arranged marriages occur all over the world and in some parts it is popular or compulsory and in others not so admired. Most

From the perspective of a Utilitarian, one would argue that arranged marriage is both ethical and unethical. A utilitarian decides whether an action is good or bad based on the results that bring the greatest good to the greatest number of people affected by the action. The so called good can be defined as “happiness.” In India, places where arranged marriage are very common because it is part of their culture. Therefore in a Utilitarian eyes it would be ethical to get married if it were part of your culture and geographical location because betraying your culture would do more harm and some forms of happiness are superior to others. Many couples find themselves to be part of happy marriages like we saw in the article What It’s Really Like To Have An Arranged Marriage. Sandaya, the bride, who lived in India had an arranged marriage set by her parents. She felt honored to have done this for her family and knew it was a

Depending on the parents, qualifications can consist of areas such as age, physical features, beliefs, occupation and much more. For example, in one situation, a sister and brother-in-law invited correspondences from North Indian professionals only and preferred that the man be an immigrant doctor who was between 26-29 years, for their relative. (Nanda 623). Sometimes the bride and groom will meet one time for a brief conversation, but in most cases the bride and groom’s first appearance of each other is at their wedding (Nanda 624). However, some parents are becoming more lenient in this area and allowing their son or daughter to meet at least one time before making any final marital arrangements to see if the two individuals are in agreement to get married to one another. This is not like a date in the United States where a couple goes out to dinner and to a movie and hangs out. This is more like a formal meeting, chaperoned by a guardian. It is sometimes classified as “having tea” together. As Americans, we probably think this is an absurd way of getting married but those in India find arranged marriages by their parents very satisfying and a better way to choose a spouse.

Sub-Point: Arranged marriage was so popular an option as history moved on, that many royals took part in the option such as: Louis XVI and Marie Antionette, Ferdinand and Isabella of Spain and Henry VIII and Catherine of Aragon