MFT 6105 A Horst Week 3 Roles and Rules- EFT

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Examining Rules and Roles Alanna Horst Northcentral Unversity MFT 6105: Couples and Sex Therapy – Week 3 Dr. Servino May 16, 2022

Case Conceptualization Case Study Lana and Darin Johnson have come into couples therapy to discuss Lana's resistance to spicing up their love life. The couple has been married for five years and has until recently been in a solely monogamous marriage. Lana is a 32-year-old Caucasian female of the Christian faith, and Darin is a 36-year-old Caucasian male that identifies as agnostic. Lana is a teacher, and Darin has a thriving online business. Darin explains that the couple has been fighting because Lana refused to engage in a three-way. Lana considers the addition of another person akin to cheating, whereas Darin thinks it could only improve the bond between the couple. Darin expressed frustration with Lana for not trusting him. Lana says she feels like she may not be good enough for Darin, and she thinks it will be the end of their marriage. Lana sits on the opposite end of the couch from Darin, turned into herself. Lana says Darin is so adamant it comes across as demanding and angry; she says he doesn't even consider her side of things, which makes her angry and sad and leads to being withdrawn. Darin gets defensive, stating that he loves Lana and that nothing and no one can come between them; it's just to have a little fun, and he doesn't understand why Lana doesn't get it. Both agree that their varying feelings about this escalate the problem. The presenting problem is the lack of effective communication; when one person pushes, the other person in the relationship is withdrawn. Both parties are looking at each other in a negative frame. This subject continues to create distance, and both report more arguments to ensue. In the first session, the conversation between the couple seemed to be both critical/hurt and defensive, and at least one person became withdrawn. When discussing Darin's desire to

include another person, Darin began to blame Lana for her insecurity and disinterest in prioritizing his desires at times. As Lana explained, Darin's frustration causes the fighting in the relationship stating Darin does not consider that his trying to force the issue causes me to feel unattractive and unloved. Lana said if Darin really loved her, he wouldn't need to involve another person. Lana began to cry. Darin immediately said, see, that's what I'm talking about; this always happens. Darin felt no remorse or responsibility for Lana's feelings. Lana continued to turn into herself and away from Darin. Lana began to tell her side of the story; as Lana expanded on her feelings, Darin repeatedly interrupted her with a sigh or snide laugh. Lana states that she doesn't feel like she can talk to Darin because all he does is get angry or frustrated. Lana noted that when sex is not the issue, they love to spend time together and enjoy going to music festivals and wineries. Mentioned is the fact they rarely looked at one another and instead focused on this therapist; only when one talked about the other's faults did they look at each other. Neither party was willing to hear the other out. Strengths While Darin and Lana disagree on how to do this, both identify they want to save the marriage, and neither wants a divorce. The couple made an effort to attend therapy, which shows a dedication to at least the discovery of the next steps. Each of the individuals can clearly state their concerns. Without forcing the issue of sexual encounters, the couple does enjoy spending time with each other. The couple can identify what they believe creates a strong relationship, and there are similarities in their assessment of what makes marriages strong. Lana stating commitment, honesty, openness, and love make a strong relationship. Darin expressing honesty, respect for the individual, transparency, and love make a strong marriage. Lana finds strength in her religious affiliations.

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