I interviewed John and Cindy about their marriage and the challenges they’ve faced together as a married couple. I am encouraged by their relationship and have decided to use their relationship as a model for my second interview. John and Cindy have been married for almost 5 years. In addition to this union, there is McKenna, Cindy’s son. They are a blended family, of course, and are part of the more modern structure of families in our society.
When reflecting upon their ideas about marriage, prior to actually being married, I noticed that Cindy’s outlook was positive. She knew she would be married one day and looked forward to it. Even though she was in a long-term romantic relationship prior to meeting John, that relationship wasn’t
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She also believes that there is more than one way to solve a problem, and it doesn’t matter whose way is used, as long as the problem is solved. I take this piece of advice to heart, as I’ve been told that I am impatient and a bit of a control freak. John states that he tries his best to work out his own dilemmas because he knows that Cindy has a stressful full-time job, and she’s also a full-time mom to McKenna. Between her schedule and McKenna’s extra-curricular activities, John doesn’t like to add anything extra on her plate if he doesn’t need to. That, he says, is the reason he takes such a large role in McKenna’s activities. It brings a sense of peace to the home when he knows his wife and son’s needs are met.
Our next subject was the topic of “deadly habits” that ruin a relationship. Another excellent example of their understanding is Cindy’s approach to getting help with household chores. Instead of nagging John to take out the garbage, which is initially what she used to do, she tried a different approach. Now she asks him once or twice, and if he doesn’t get to it, she kindly lets him know how uncomfortable she is with trash sitting and the extra work it makes for her in the long run with cleaning the mess or airing out the lingering odor. She admits that she doesn’t go overboard because she is a “junky” person and doesn’t want to look like a hypocrite. John, however, has fallen into her pattern of “junkiness,” stating that he used to
Marriage has changed dramatically over time in the many years it has been around. What do think Marriage was like 100 years ago? The article, “American Marriage in Transition”, describes how many different types of marriage there are and how people have changed their view on it. Andrew Cherlin (the sociologist of the article) does a great job going in depth explaining American marriage. He arranges the different marriages in three different categories; Institutionalized which was the earliest type of marriage, then Companionship around World War II, and currently we are considered Individualized.
John, the narrator’s controlling, but loving, husband represents the atypical man of the time. He wants his wife to get better and to be able to fill the role of the perfect wife that society expected from her. John, being a doctor, did not quite believe that her mental illness was out of her control and insisted on
The purpose of this paper is to examine the field of marriage and family counseling beginning with the history and development of the profession and its importance in the field of counseling. This paper will also evaluate five major themes relevant to Marriage and Family Therapy which include: roles of Marriage and Family Therapists; licensure requirements and examinations; methods of supervision; client advocacy; multiculturalism and diversity. The author will discuss significant aspects to the field of Marriage and Family Therapy such as MFT identity, function, and ethics of the profession. This paper will assess biblical values in relation to Marriage and Family Therapists and to the field
seems that John is very controlling and doesn't pay true attention to his wife. The illnesses of both the
In March of this year, I interviewed Janna Cash, a 24 year old woman from Franklin County, Georgia. Janna married her high school sweetheart when she was 19 years old, just three months after she found out she was pregnant. She insisted that they did not get married because of the pregnancy, and she pointedly stated that they had been discussing marriage since their first month of dating when she was 16 years old and he was 17 years old. When I asked her if the people in her life supported her marriage, she told me a long story about how the various people in her life supported her marriage in different ways for different reasons. The topic of the interview was young motherhood and networks, but something much more interesting came from our
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John and Louise have been married for nine years. They have three children ages 8, 7, and 5. John is 29 and Louise is 28. John works full time to support the family. Louise is a stay-at-home mother who sometimes babysits the neighborhood children to supplement the income. The family is actively involved in their religion. This is both John and Louise’s first marriage. John discloses to Louise that he has been questioning his life lately. John reports that on business trips he has started drinking, which is against church law, and is using tobacco and illicit drugs on occasion. John is not sure that he wants to remain a member of the church and is uncertain that he wants to remain married. Louise, still very active, asks that they meet
For my interview, I talked with my mom and dad, Sharla and Bruce Zwanziger. My parents have been happily married for 21 years now. The unconditional love that they show for each other every day makes me hope that someday I have a marriage just like theirs. I interviewed my parents about power, decision-making, and conflict management in their relationship.
On Friday, November 10th, 2017, I went to Centennial Hall of Nations to sit in and listen to a lecture titled School, Work, and Marriage: Economics and Inequalities in the Middle East and North Africa. The presentation went in depth into the problems in the Middle East and North Africa (MENA), through schooling, the workforce, and marriage. The MENA region has seen many problems which are affected by these three topics, and the lecture went over all three of the topics with clear facts and statistics.
Marriage has different meanings to different people, as I embarked on this reaserch I was excited to hear the stories of the ones whom made it for so long. Prior to the interview I casually knew all of the individuals. One would assume all would have amazing love stories since all were wed for close to 28 years
Mary Jane shares an apartment with her boyfriend, David. Mary Jane and David have been in a relationship for five years. Where recently the couple started growing their marijuana for reactional purposes. Mary Jane believes that her relationship with has caused her to increase her marijuana usage. She states David and his friends are heavy smokers. Mary Jane explains how David lacks communication skills when he is not under the influence of marijuana.
Bikram Bista Prof Mather English 1010 11/12/2017 Getting Married vs cohabitating Cohabitation is an arrangement where a couple who have not married life collectively. Such arrangements have become more and more common in Western nations during the previous few decades, being directed by changing social views, specifically about marriage, gender role, and religion. Whereas getting married is also called wedlock, is a socially accept the union among spouse that builds right and obligation between those spouses, as well as between them and any resulting biological children. Nowadays, there is a different opinion in the society about getting married or cohabitation when a person is fed up living a single life. Peoples might prefer getting
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