Listening is a vital element of communication and it is very much different from hearing sense of human. A meaningful communication requires both a good listener and a speaker. However, the effect of a listening style may vary depending on the occasions and situations a listener is in. Sometimes, speaker exhibit ineffective style such as defensiveness, ambushing, pseudo-listening, stage hogging and selective listening in their communication tracks. I am a good listener because I pay my whole attention to the speaker commentswho comes to me so they can be heard. People like to know they have been heard and I can do that job very well but hearing and truly listening are two different things. In my opinion, listening engage you to …show more content…
Thus, I attend my speaker with my full concentration as they speak, overcoming distractions and even going so far as to forgive a speaker's poor communication skills. Simply by paying attention, I can build an unspoken rapport with my speaker. Paraphrasing is another element essential in the good listening habits. I try to make sure in gathering input from the speaker or loosely summarize whatalready have said in order to feel them they have been listened. Paraphrasing also urges a speaker to clarify his comments as well as permitting him to know that these comments have been heard. Understanding often involves emotion of a good listener. I consider a job well done if it allows the speaker to become slightly uninhibited during the communication process because if speakers are being criticized by a listener, they show inhibition while speaking in the conversation. By expressing empathy and understanding while listening requires flexibility, I encourage them to be candid while expressing their emotions. I involved myself in their conversation as I express I am in their shoes so they feel more candid as they speak. I feel that speaker should have freedom to express themselves completely before attempting to interrupt for comments or questions regarding what they are saying. This again requires understanding and patience from a good listener. Interrupting a speaker is likely to be a interpreted as a sign of rudeness. According
When I think of listening I relate it to just hearing the message. I do not follow the process of listening that was taught in my communication class. Rather than receiving, recalling, rating, and responding, I often hear and skip right to responding. I do believe that because I don’t follow all the steps I forget easily or do not understand things completely, which leads to me either questioning later, or just winging it. I also realized that I have selective listening, because of lack of interest in some conversations I often block out part of the conversation, or lose focus and zone out until the end of the conversation. By then I know little of what was talked about and only respond to what I think is most important to me. Another bad habit I have when it comes to listening is my responding habits, I’m not sure how to respond to most
Be aware of the words you are using when talking to others. Could you be misunderstood or confuse the issue? Practise clarity and learn to seek feedback to ensure your message has been understood. Encourage others to engage in communication and use appropriate questioning to develop your understanding.
Talking and listening are essential life skills. The ability to talk in order to communicate and exchange ideas and information, to negotiate with others, to express feelings and emotions, allows human beings to function well in the world and to be full and active members of society. Communication, to be effective, requires the ability to listen, to understand and to make sense of what is heard. On the personal level, when we listen, we give attention to the other person in such a way as to allow them to feel heard, understood and therefore respected. In that way, listening is more than
Be receptive, keep and keep an open mind: As a good listener, you much keep an open mind to understand your colleague’s point of view, if different.
One of these ways is to practice being an active listener. Rephrasing and summarizing what the speaker is saying and repeating key points while writing them down will help me listen the entire time someone is speaking. I am privileged to have plenty of opportunities to attend lectures that are given at my work place. I chose to attend a lecture this week for the sole purpose of practicing my listening skills. During the lecture I practiced being an active listener. I made mental note of key words and phrases and wrote down main points that were not clear so that I could resort and do further research after the lecture. I also focused my attention to the speaker’s mannerism to help me identify which messages were most important to understand. This practice session taught me the most effective way to absorb information given through an oral
In today’s society, where communication is advanced, the importance of listening skills is often times discounted for its importance in communication. Research shows that 45% of adults spend their time listening which is a skill that must be developed. According to, “Skilled Interaction: Research, Theory and Practice”, (London: Routledge, 2011) (p.177), the average worker spends 50% or more of their day listening while managers spend over 65% of their day listening.
This paper evaluates the several main effective listening responses; prompting, questioning, paraphrasing, supportive, analyzing, advising, and judging. This paper also explains how they are applied in society, and how they can be used. The paper also goes over the definitions of these responses and when it is ideally appropriate to use said responses. We will also go over the importance of mindfulness. J. T. Wood (2014) says that the first step in finding an effective response is to be mindful. This paper explains the steps that are to be taken to have effective listening skills that will later bring you to having a response. Adia Lane (2012) suggests that we use the knowledge of knowing the other person's personal style. . We will also discuss
This is one area of my life that I was made aware of over a year ago. I do not listen! I used to listen to respond, which was an unhealthy way to communicate. In listening to respond we are putting a higher value to our thoughts then that of the speaker. As discussed in our text some of warnings that one may not be a good listener is having the speaker repeat information already given, criticizing the speakers form of giving information, breaking the conversation to give your input, either orally or mentally, and giving the speaker the false gratification that you are listening (Hamilton. C. pp. 119, 120). I used to be the breaker in the
This book makes presentations of exceptional and rational methods as to, “Why Don’t We Listen Better?” through the expertise of Dr. Jim Petersen. According to Petersen (2007), “Good communication is just as important in business, family, and social life” (p. 17). According to the reading, listening is essential to work effectively with others and to maintain relationships and friendships. Furthermore, good communication can make a difference in casual relationships and more intimate relationships. Moreover, the book presents the importance of understanding and listening to others as a reciprocal beneficial interaction.
Listening is purposeful and requires control. In the listening process, we need to receiving, understanding, remembering, evaluating and responding. Actively listen to the person complaint are more effectively to solve the problem.
Make sure that you are fully focused on the speaker, avoid interrupting, avoid seeming judgmental, and show interest are
We used “listening to understand” method when we were discussing the topic for the project and also when members were sharing the information that they found. We used both the “listening to respond” and “listening to interpret” methods during the socialization of group with topics such as personal lives that were unrelated to the assignment. I believe that my listening ability was very effective in the group along with everyone else. We all exemplified the habits that demonstrate an effective listener, which are knowledge, skills and desire (Covey,
Prepare to only listen, thus remove distractions which will refrain us from dedicating our full attention to the speaker. Pay attention to not just words but body language of the speaker as well.
Listening is more than just hearing. The process of listening involves receiving and constructing meaning, and responding to verbal and/or nonverbal messages. In other words, listening is not always easy and being a good listener is all about developing listening skills. To receive messages appropriately we have to listen actively. Active listening can be broken down into three important skills; first of all you have to reflect the feelings that the person is communicating, secondly reflect the content that they are communicating and finally ask good, meaningful questions.
An effective listener is as significant as a good speaker, but it takes an effort to perfect this skill. I consider the idea of listening has been instilled as a significant behaviour ever since we were born. Our