Is Love at First Sight Possible?
Love at first sight is the experience of starting to be in love with someone as soon as you see them for the first time. To a large extent, love at first sight is possible to start a relationship but not possible to maintain a relationship in a long run.
Love at first sight involve passion, which is recognized as one of the components of love. Eros, one of the six love style suggested by John Alan Lee (1976) in the color wheel theory of love, is defined as passionate love. Strong physical and/or emotional attraction is the basis of such kind of love style. Later research on this theory of love by Clyde and Susan Hendrick (1986) also suggested six love-attitude scales using factor analysis, supporting the existence
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Study shown that couples who want to make their relationship permanent (e.g. through marriage) tend to have higher level of commitment than passion, while couples who never thought to make their relationship permanent tend to have higher level of passion (Gonzaga, Turner, Keltner, & Campos, 2006). This shows that commitment is a much important factor when transforming people’s bonding to a long-term relationship, but not passion. Even if dating couples are married base on the infatuation, such passionate love may not last long. As love at first sight is a kind of love that only involves intense passion, people may idealize their partner when getting along with each other (Ben-Ze'ev, 2000), which means people are often in love with the idealized image but not the real one. However, such situation may not hold long. Study found that the amount of passion between couples who had intensely passionate courtships decline very quickly over the first twenty-four months after reaching the peak level due to marriage (Niehuis, Reifman, Feng, & Huston, 2014). Once the passion fade and the couple still did not develop sufficient level of intimacy and commitment, which is an important factor for long-term relationship (Sternberg, 2007), to maintain their bonding, the couple may divorce. These research studies reflect that although love at first sight has
Patz opens the article with a personal anecdote and explanation of her interest behind this article, being a lecture given addressing high divorce rates and their roots, and her own experience with divorce. She directly discusses the emotions often felt early in a relationship and the euphoric nature of the marriage directly after the honeymoon. She specifically cites the indicator that the first two years of marriage directly correlate to the trajectory of the following marriage. Furthermore, she also later references specific examples from a long study on 56 different couples, in which couples that were in the ‘courting’ stage longer saw more successful results in creating a long and lasting marriage founded on love and respect. Her claim of the direct correlation between time and marital success is discussed frequently throughout the article, further underlining her message, and emphasizing ill-preparedness as a major factor in failing marriages.
One of the reasons that so many marriages today end up in divorce today has to do with the interpersonal personal relationship principle known as fatal attraction. When most people think of fatal attraction, they right away think of the popular definition represented in the movie “Fatal Attraction”. This paper will define the principle of fatal attraction from an interpersonal relationship perspective. Along with a definition of fatal attraction, I will explore some of the causes of fatal attraction. I will discuss my experiences with fatal attractions.
For the purpose of this paper, I am planning to explore the idea of commitment and how commitment is linked to relationship satisfaction and longevity. The lecture of module nine, as well as chapter nine from the textbook, focuses on concepts of commitment. The chapters and lecture ascribes the various components of commitment as being vital in establishing a true and lasting relationship. A particularly interesting aspect of module nine is the varying motivators behind why people become and remain committed to their partner. For example, there are those who wish to be committed to one another, those who feel they have to remain committed to each other due to the work they’ve already put in, and those who believe they ought to continue their
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According to the article, three factors are present when you fall in love: “Studies have found: You have to like the other person’s physical appearance; you have to find his or her personality desirable, and you have to feel the other person likes you” The teens had declared their love for each other within 3 hours of meeting. All they knew at the time was that they found each other attractive. This shows that they were infatuated with each other rather than in love because they knew nothing about each other except their
Marriage requires effort and work. Many newlyweds come into a marriage thinking it is easy but do not consider the consequences of marriage that heavily rely on balances and partnership. Marriage is all about compromise. It is important to engage in a premarital program to allow both partners to learn what to expect within a marriage, how to face certain roadblocks, and to better communication when conflict is aroused so that divorce does not become an option. Gottman’s research (2009) has made a significant contribution to the study of relationship and marriage tying unity, harmony, and communication together to make relationship and marriage work. When a couple who does not have consummate love (intimacy, passion, and commitment), they often portray the six indicators of divorce: harsh startup, the Four Horsemen, flooding, body language, failed repair attempts and reflecting on bad memories (Gottman, 2009). Divorce often occurs within the first two years of marriages and almost half of divorces end within the first seven years (Bhutto-Ramirez, 2015).
Prince Charming, Romeo Montague, and Edward Cullen—all create a hopeful image in a young girl’s mind of finding her own fairytale prince and have a happy ending. However, can a person really spend the rest of his or her life with the same person? Sometimes, the qualities that seem appealing at first can turn traitors when the bond lasts long term. Marriage—the official name given to the life-long relationship two people choose to go into—provokes deep-thinking. Though people have confidence in their relationship, they are often proven wrong. A love-based marriage should not present an option when choosing a life partner. Define love. A feeling? A psychological problem? An illusion, perhaps? The cycle goes on: People get married, divorced,
The principal relationships that are driven by passion are referred to as infatuated, romantic, and fatuous love. “...Infatuation is a short-lived passion for someone whereas love is a deep affection for someone that lasts the test of time.” (Infatuation vs. Love). This kind of relationship is developed without intimacy or commitment. In result of two out of three lacking components from the triangular love theory infatuated love can unexpectedly and without a warning disappear
IND AFF is proof that not all love is virtuous. Love, in its numerous forms, is a dynamic force. Although love may be indescribable, it can be inferred that mutual love can exist. “The existing research evidence on the relationship between couples' well-being and similarity in various domains is equivocal: Some scholars have found associations between couple similarity and well-being, whereas others have failed to find such relationships” report
Of course, physical affection plays a large role in connection to a partner, but the underlying glue for a strong relationship lies in the mindset behind it. Maria Fatima and M. Asir Ajmal, who both research clinical psychology, undertook a qualitative study and used Interpretive Phenomenological Analysis (IPA) as a research method. There is not any pre-existing theories or hypothesis surmised upon in using the IPA research method. However, there can be a great deal of bias because all of the information gathered can be subjective towards the interviewee. In Maria and Asir’s experiment, they interviewed a woman that was happily married and asked her direct questions about the influencers of a long marriage. The interview questions asked were formulated from what one needs as an individual, to how it can work in a relationship as well. “The interviewee stated, "Happiness and satisfaction go side by side. Satisfaction level determines your level of happiness and a satisfied life is a happy life".” (Maria 39). There were 16 categories to a life-long marriage that presented themselves within this research, and satisfaction was one of the most important. Each category could potentially be subjective to the one woman interviewed, and if the experiment is replicated, it could be possible for another person to have the same categories. One cannot aspire to share, forgive, or love,
While early on they may be head-over-heals for each other, that kind of love is not built to last. When that flame eventually dies out, some couples are left thinking that they no longer love each other. This may contribute to the fact that 50% of today’s marriages end in divorce, a truly staggering number. However, that flame of compassionate love transitions into another type of love altogether: companionate love. Companionate love may not be as exciting or butterfly-inducing as compassionate love, but it is something just as valuable. Companionate love is characterized by a strong sense of commitment to one another. It is a key element of all successful marriages. This transition from compassionate love to companionate love is an important aspect of all relationships, and defines the way that couples interact with each
Have you ever seen someone and knew they were the one from that second? In William Shakespeare's Romeo and Juliet the main theme is love at first sight. In act 1, there is evidence that Romeo had feelings for Juliet the moment he saw her. Also, in act 2 we see Juliet willing to do anything to be with Romeo, and Romeo is willing to do anything to be with Juliet.
Established with Adam and Eve, still surviving, marriage is the oldest institution known. Often the climax of most romantic movies and stories, whether it may be ‘Pride and Prejudice’ or ‘Dil Wale Dulhaniya Ley Jaein Gey’, marriage has a universal appeal. It continues to be the most intimate social network, providing the strongest and most frequent opportunity for social and emotional support. Though, over the years, marriage appears to be tarnished with high divorce rates, discontentment and infidelity, it is still a principal source of happiness in the lives of respective partners. Although marriage is perceived as a deeply flawed institution serving more the needs of the society than those of the individuals, nevertheless, marriage is
One of the main things people do when they feel great chemistry between one another is get married. Some couples are unable to maintain their relationship and they get a divorce; which is one of the solutions to solve the problems between husband and wife. Most people think carefully before they get married however the divorce rates are continuously increasing.
Based on the intimacy component in the triangular theory of love the couple Hong Shun and Sheryl The second component in the triangular theory of love is passion. The passion component refers to the drives that lead to romance, physical attraction, sexual consummation, and related phenomena in loving relationships. The passion component thus includes within its purview those sources of motivational and other forms of arousal that lead to the experience of passion in a loving relationship (Robert J. Steinberg n.d.). According to the passion in the triangular theory of love, we can see that the couple Hong Shun and Sheryl The last component in the triangular theory of love is commitment. The commitment component refers to, in the short term, the decision that one loves someone else, and in the long term, the commitment to maintain that love. The commitment component thus includes within its purview the cognitive elements that are involved in decision making about the existence of and potential long-term commitment to a loving relationship (Robert J. Steinberg n.d.). Based on the commitment component, we can conclude that the couple Hong Shun and Sheryl, does not have much commitment to their