How to Make People Like You Essay

1641 Words Jul 26th, 2015 7 Pages
We all care about what others think of us and want to be liked (despite what rebellious 15-year-old you might have said). The basics of getting people to like you are obvious--be nice, be considerate, be a decent human being. Those things are all true. However, there are also many smaller, more discreet things you can do that can have a huge effect on how others perceive you.

Most of these tips are little techniques you can implement every day. They may seem insignificant or even silly, but give them a try and you might find yourself becoming exponentially more popular.

1. Use a Person's Name
Let's face it--we're all huge narcissists and we all love the sound of our own name. Learn names and make use of them. Always use an
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4. Use Verbal Confirmation
Most psychology books refer to this technique as "active listening." Active listening revolves around demonstrating your listening skills by repeating segments of what an individual has said to you. For example:

Mark: I went to this awesome beer tasting event over the weekend--I got to try a ton of great local beers from all over the state.
You: You got to try a lot of different beer, huh?
Mark: Yes, it was really fun. My favorite was the Pretty Things Magnifico.
You: The Magnifico was your favorite?
Mark: Yeah, it tasted great.
While in text form this looks like a strange conversation, in speech this kind of dialogue can actually go a long way to make people like you more. It makes the other individual feel as though you really are paying attention. Plus, people love to hear their own words echoed back at them as it pats their egos a bit.

5. Conversation Recall: Prove You're Paying Attention.
We've already discussed how important it is to show people that you're listening to them. Snoring during a speech or getting a glazed look in your eyes doesn't result in fast friends.

To really show someone you've been paying attention, try bringing up a topic that the person mentioned earlier. Did your co-worker talk about working with his son on a science fair project last week? Follow up and ask how it went. Did your friend say she was going to paint her kitchen a new color over the weekend? Ask how she likes
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