We all care about what others think of us and want to be liked (despite what rebellious 15-year-old you might have said). The basics of getting people to like you are obvious--be nice, be considerate, be a decent human being. Those things are all true. However, there are also many smaller, more discreet things you can do that can have a huge effect on how others perceive you.
Most of these tips are little techniques you can implement every day. They may seem insignificant or even silly, but give them a try and you might find yourself becoming exponentially more popular.
1. Use a Person's Name
Let's face it--we're all huge narcissists and we all love the sound of our own name. Learn names and make use of them. Always use an
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4. Use Verbal Confirmation
Most psychology books refer to this technique as "active listening." Active listening revolves around demonstrating your listening skills by repeating segments of what an individual has said to you. For example:
Mark: I went to this awesome beer tasting event over the weekend--I got to try a ton of great local beers from all over the state.
You: You got to try a lot of different beer, huh?
Mark: Yes, it was really fun. My favorite was the Pretty Things Magnifico.
You: The Magnifico was your favorite?
Mark: Yeah, it tasted great.
While in text form this looks like a strange conversation, in speech this kind of dialogue can actually go a long way to make people like you more. It makes the other individual feel as though you really are paying attention. Plus, people love to hear their own words echoed back at them as it pats their egos a bit.
5. Conversation Recall: Prove You're Paying Attention.
We've already discussed how important it is to show people that you're listening to them. Snoring during a speech or getting a glazed look in your eyes doesn't result in fast friends.
To really show someone you've been paying attention, try bringing up a topic that the person mentioned earlier. Did your co-worker talk about working with his son on a science fair project last week? Follow up and ask how it went. Did your friend say she was going to paint her kitchen a new color over the weekend? Ask how she likes
Look at the person when you are speaking to them and listening to them. Make eye contact and nod to show that you understand. It can help to repeat some or all of what the other person has said to you to positively reinforce that you have heard what they have said. Ensure that you understand what you have heard.
* Try to make sure that you will not be disturbed or distracted and will not have to leave the person alone.
Whilst listening make sure that you have eye contact and use different expressive words to show your interest.
What is one of the things that most people are accustomed to? Something that has been a part of their daily life. There are many things but what I am referring to is school. School has been around for hundreds of years. Whether it was to learn about religion or the mandatory classes we take now in the 21st century, many of us have been advised to go to school. It has changed a lot over the years and the system is still trying to improve how they could better educate their students in the future. Now, after going through many levels of school, people question themselves: why did I learn all of this? They question why they couldn’t learn more about taxes, buying a house or the important aspects when you get a car. School has become a
Eye contact is an important factor as this engages the audience, keeping them focused on what you are discussing. By making eye contact you are directing your conversation at that specific person, demonstrating that you are devoting your time and are not able to be distracted as if you would by looking around.
If you show you are interested in what they are saying it builds their confidence and makes them feel like they are important and shows them they are making a valued contribution. If what you’re told relates to a forthcoming event, such as a birthday or holiday, remembering this for the next time you see them also reinforces the fact that you were interested and were listening to what they had to say.
Give them your full attention, by making eye contact you are showing you are actively listening and are interested in what they are saying. Sometimes this may mean you need to find a quiet space with no distractions.
Active listening do their response make sense or do you need to ask questions to clarify. Sometimes when it’s appropriate, you may re-phrase what they've said and repeat it back to them.
Friends is a hit television (tv) show, and has been since 1994 when it first came out. The television show follows the lives of six friends throughout the course of 10 years. Friends is a good tv show despite some people’s opinions. The show was at the top of the charts for the years that it ran, and even more after that. The theme song itself was number 1 for 8 weeks, and after that was still within the top numbers (Billboard Staff, 2015). Even though the show is aimed for a mature audience, it captures the qualities a hit tv show needs. Friends is a good tv show due to the fact that it is a comedy, includes lots of plot twists, and follows one basic storyline.
This can lead you to accept anything and self-destruction. We can try to break the cycle by calling each other by our real names instead of nick names which doesn’t have anything to do with the real you.
using open ended questions such as how they felt, or asking them to tell you more about something,
Thus, I attend my speaker with my full concentration as they speak, overcoming distractions and even going so far as to forgive a speaker's poor communication skills. Simply by paying attention, I can build an unspoken rapport with my speaker.
Anybody can become a good listener if they are committed to learn how and are willing to work hard. The first mistake that people tend to make when listening is to not make any type of comments while listening. They tend to just stand there and listen while the speaker talks. This can become very frustrating for the speaker and the listener. While the speaker may feel like he isn't being
To become a success in life, we all need to learn to become a good student in every aspect of life. Becoming a good student takes much work and self-discipline. There are many ways that a student can stand out from the rest of the class. These good students are distinguished by their attitude, intellectual skills, consciousness, and achievement.
When listening to other people, you should not be thinking about what you are going to say next when the other person stops talking. Instead, you should really listen to what they are saying without interrupting them. You need to try to understand them which will build a bridge between