My Double Standards

Have you ever gotten into a quarrel with your parents? Have you ever fought relentlessly until you get your own way? Many times when children get into fights with their parents, they do not have the same views as the other person. They both angrily proclaim what they believe is correct, and why the other’s point is not valid. Parents and children typically argue back and forth with each other, and in the worst cases, the tension lingers for days. The narrator’s views in both Confetti Girl by Diana Lopez and Tortilla Sun by Jennifer Cervantes differ from the parent’s perspective and the child’s perspective. In many cases that I have encountered, I get mad at my parents for saying something that I do not agree with and that is irrelevant. Although

Convincing an audience in general is a hassle, however convincing a parent to do something, for example allowing their child to take a year off between high school graduation and college, really requires persistence and persuasion. In order to get my parents to at least consider that thought, I would have to appeal to the most useful concepts when it comes to persuasion: ethos, pathos, and logos. When appealing to ethos, I would consider speaking to my parents about my achievements and commitments to school, attempting to come across as a mature and responsible person. However when appealing to logos, I’d have to say something that would logically be a good enough reason to no continue with college right after high school. For

Last school year, I joined FFA. I mainly joined it to get out of band since my parents wouldn't let me leave the band unless I joined another extra-curricular activity. I had a choice to make, it was either I join FFA and try something new, or I suffer from the band the rest of high school. I believe I made the right choice since FFA has been an exciting experience. I have been working hard to keep my birds alive and stay on top of my schoolwork, but my parents can't see it. With all this hard work that has been put in, I felt underappreciated and given too many chores.

My parents are currently the greatest influence on both me and my life. They’ve taught me manner, how to read, write, how to count, etc.. My parents are outstanding, both have jobs, and have gone college. Not only that, but I express a lot of love and respect toward them for influencing my good behaviors and actions in my lifetime. However my parents are both divorced, but that makes me want to value both of them more than ever. But that doesn’t stop me from valuing them. In fact, I have to value both of them even more. For one, my mother is an Assistant Principal at Perez Elementary while my father is a sheriff for Webb county. I really have to show respect for my mother because she is very stressed out from work and me being in band, but the strictness she shows teaches me how to be a firm person about life and how to be humble. Although my mom may be strict and stressed, my dad is a lot more lenient, motivational, and not as stressed out. My

Across the globe, women of all walks of life are constantly oppressed by their male counterparts, shamed for actions frowned upon simply because of the double standards they are assigned since birth. In many cultures, women are viewed below men, and as a result they are forced to cater to all of the unfair expectations that men demand from them. One of the most popular and universal expectations is the belief that a woman must retain her virginity until marriage. In Half The Sky, women who disobeyed these unwritten laws of society faced the most extreme and harsh consequences. In one instance, a girl named Du’a Aswad went out late with a boy, and didn’t return until the morning. It was immediately assumed that she had slept with him, despite

My habitual origin was a low-income household. That type of environment instills the mentality that “you have to get it how you live.” At the time, the unsubstantial status of my mother’s financial stability caused certain difficulties to come to pass. One instance of an difficulty that came to pass due to the unsubstantial status of my mother's financial stability was that she could only buy one pair of uniform for every other school year. I was aware of how the other children were mocking me behind my back, although some even chose to do so in front of my face. At the time I did not understand how materialistic parents unintentionally raise their children to be because my parents raised me to just seek happiness in every dark situation. I began to resent my parents for the financial difficulties I inherited.

My parents never told me specifically what I can or cannot do, but it seems like their comments regarding this topic are somewhat unconscious or automatic. Sometimes there would be a woman authoritative figure speaking in front of a crowed for a political broadcast. They would comment about how she lacks charisma, and is too soft spoken for a political career. “This is why men should do this instead,” they would say. Again, I challenge this from time to time. I feel like I have constructed some part of my identity from trying to challenge these notions, even if it was just within the realm of my

I can see that in how my parents have had arguments. One of their disagreements was clearly a class of expectations of things that needed to be done as we had family coming. When my father thought my mother should have done something that she had not he became upset with her. It was almost as if they had fought over nothing, something so trivial did not need an argument to sort it out. I can now see that this was a fight that surfaced because of expectations of one another to contribute to an entire job. It was not just about the one task at hand, or the parts of a whole, it was about how t fit into the whole situation like in the symbolic interaction theory. The way that they interacted with each other had a significant meaning. Also, the tasks had a specific meaning to each of them. For my mother, it meant nothing and to my father it meant much more. Families react to each different personality that makes up them. One person can influence the personality of others. I can see this also in how my parents have shaped me. The way that they have always interacted with me has molded me into a very positive person who is also very stubborn and strong willed. It is also easy to see how when my parents addressed the myths about marriage during interviews, they were both very certain of themselves. They knew, from their own experiences, that their opinion mattered. They have been through thirty years worth of trial and

1) I really like how she discussed the history with sexual double standards. I never really thought about how much of the past is still in play today in the current society. It all stems from the fact that women were expected to be virgins when they got married to males. She discussed how a lot of stigma surrounding getting pregnant out of wedlock drew from the church and the state. They did not want to pay for these children whose fathers left them. This turned into a large negative reputation surrounding women having sex outside of a heterosexual marriage. The views sex being a taboo topic continue to exist today because the historical impact surrounding the idea that sex should only occur inside a marriage.

We all have had times where we don’t agree with our parents. Kids always think they are right even though parents are often the ones who are correct. Parents don’t want to argue and scold their children; they just want to teach us lessons in life. Relationships between parents and children are so rocky at times because, children don’t think parents understand them, children want more independence than their parents will give them, and parent’s expectations can seem unreasonable to kids.

The lead up to my birthday was spent with me constantly reminding my parents about my permit and almost always being shot down and told that I would not being getting it anytime soon. In my parent’s eyes, I was too much of a distraction while they drove, always showing them the latest picture on social media or changing the radio station constantly and not actually paying attention to their “useful” tips while on the road. “How was it my fault for showing them a funny picture or not listening to them?”

My dad once criticized me at work for not listening to his criticisms. I had been working with a drill and I had been screwing screws into the wrong areas and they were useless screws because they weren’t hitting studs. Dad got mad at me because this was something he had pointed out to me a while ago and I was doing it again. Then I got mad because I don’t usually mess up and I thought dad should take that into account. I fixed the problem and began doing it correctly but I had a terrible attitude the entire time and I am not proud of that. Recently, after being put in charge of my younger brother, I had to criticize him for doing the exact same thing I had done and he reacted the exact same way I did and then I began to see it from dad’s point

Everyone remembers fighting with their parents at some point in their life, whether as a young child who wants a toy or as a teenager who isn’t allowed to go out. It’s normal to want to challenge authority when growing up, because it helps young people to make their own decisions and become individuals. Teenagers rely on few close friends and the last people expected to be confidants are their parents.

For the first question, I asked my parents how they approached power, decision-making, and conflict in their relationship. After asking this question, my mom replied with “I think we both have very easy going personalities, so when it comes to conflicts, we both talk about different options and listen to each others ideas.” (S. Zwanziger, personal interview, June 25, 2017.). My dad replied with “Yes, I definitely agree with that. We both have different ideas sometimes, but we make sure that we are open to each others ideas as well as our own.” (B. Zwanziger, personal interview, June 25, 2017.). As I watched them answer this question, I noticed that they both paid very good attention to each other and let one another state their opinions, just like how I would imagine their conversations about solving a conflict would be. Just like my parents, Galvin, Braithwaite, and Bylund (2015), believe that decision-making in a family involves more than just one individual (p. 197). They agree that whatever decisions that are made will affect the entire family, so everyone in the family should have a say in what the decision is

To begin with, your parents are a huge part of your characteristics. You live with your parents a good part of your life. They teach you the difference between right and wrong, that apparently you’ll use for your kids, like not talking back. Let’s say your parents were not there to tell you not to talk back to , then you think it would be alright to talk back to people. You would have no respect for anybody, which respect is apart of your characteristics. Every Christmas my family and I go to Florida. We go there a week before Christmas and on Christmas day we open our Christmas presents there. My family, making this tradition, has made me take a vow to keep this tradition going with my kids. My parents have influenced me in