Norm Violation Essay

The waitress came back to our table. She came down to the kids table and started asking what we wanted to order. It was my turn, I was a little worried about my order going in correct since she could hardly understand us.

In my Norm Violation assignment I chose to break the common dining etiquette norm of eating with your hands. Since eating with your hands is only deviant behavior in certain dining situations, I chose to break this norm at a local sit-down restaurant in Eugene, Café Soriah. I went to the downtown restaurant with a group of friends for an afternoon meal without telling them of my Norm Violation assignment. Being the only informed one in the experiment seemed like the best way to get the most candid reactions from my peers.

My friend of course knew about the whole assignment so she just looked at me and busted out laughing when I told her to look at the little girl. The waiter had finally arrived with our food and I was glad because I was starving. I ordered a steak with onion rings. I needed to use a knife of course to cut my steak as well as my onion rings. I finally cut a piece after it took so long. I got so tired of having to take so long to cut my food by myself that my friend finally just cut the steak up in pieces for me. The whole time I was thinking how it would have been if I had to spend so much time cutting up things just to eat. I would be so frustrated for a while and probably always eat some kind of finger food. I hung out at my friend house for a while then I came back to my dorm on campus. Later on that day I decided to do one more thing which was to go to the fresh to get something to eat before they closed. I didn’t want to sit in there so I got a to-go plate. I has such a hard time putting things on my plate that I had to ask someone could they put things on their for

The perceived societal norm in this case is that men must pay for dinner while on a first date with a woman. Following this line of reasoning, deviance of this norm should include a woman attempting and/or succeeding in paying for dinner on a first date with a man. My experiment was arraigned with me going on a first date to a restaurant with a male, who will be referred to as “subject” throughout this investigation. This experiment was performed on September 12, 2015 at Applebee’s restaurant in Shirley, New York. The subject invited me on a dinner-date and I agreed, unbeknownst to him that I planned on conducting a social experiment that involved me paying for the dinner.

It was even suggested by a girl from NYC that “we should synchronize our eating”, to which the group agreed unanimously and did synchronize. However, I was the one to mess up, I started eating the chocolate cake before everyone else had agreed

“Kids eat free on Sunday right?!” “Can I substitute this juice for a Bloody Mary?” “Can I taste that first?” “Oh!? I’m sorry we haven’t even looked at the menu yet. We’ll just be a bit . . . (45 minutes later) . . . ok, were ready.” “Yeah, were ready. Let me have . . . uh . . . oh where was it? Here! Wait no. Where did it go? I can’t find it. You know it has the thing with the thing on it . . .” “Can we get some more of your FREE bread!” These quotes, among a plethora of others, are common occurrences with the serving field. Sometimes even the smallest actions can show one’s personality in a big way. With hundreds of people dining out every single day it becomes easier to allocate them into many different classifications

After a few minutes; I stop the activity and regroup. Find out who ate or even accepted a piece and talk about crossing the line from risk situation to risk behavior. Thank the Healthy

At the grocery store, I violated the social norm of purchasing the whole bag of grapes displayed, not just one individual grape. When I did this, I felt awkward because I was going against societies expectations of me. I also received repercussions as I violated the norm because I did not fit in and began to separate myself from the crowd of conformists. I experienced an array of reactions throughout this incident. The manager was called over, customers were curious and annoyed, and the cashier became very confused and aggravated. They were surprised I was breaking the unwritten rules of society. Two different types of norms include mores and folkways. Mores are formal outlined norms that result in severe punishment when violated. A few examples of mores are laws, religion, and plagiarism. Folkway norms are unwritten expected behaviors society holds to keep it systematic and predictable (Conley, 2011, pgs. 91-92). Examples of folkway norms include waiting in lines, walking on the right side of the sidewalk, and my field research study of buying the entire bag of grapes or similar produce, instead of just one. Different punishments for violating these norms are comprised of positive and negative sanctions. Positive sanctions, or rewards, encourage the conformity of social norms. Some examples include getting a raise in your job for hard work or receiving an A+ on a test for studying. Negative sanctions are the discouragement or punishment used because of a violation of a social norm. Examples of this include putting someone in prison or intentionally not speaking to someone for a period of time. In my field research I experienced a negative sanction of hearing adverse comments about my actions. Another concept is culture, a set of beliefs, traditions, and practices that are not a part of the natural world. Two types of culture are material culture and nonmaterial culture.

Family dinners with the entire host of the family sitting down and having dinner together come with many manners and expectations that are similar across American households. A social norm at the dinner table is the common site for adults to drink wine and not serve alcohol to young children or have the young children ask for alcohol. The legal age to drink alcohol in America is twenty-one years of age and sometimes that rule is bent in some households where young adults in their late teens will be served alcohol by their parents. But it is a norm not to serve alcohol to young children because of the general knowledge that alcohol in excess can cause problems with developing brains and other health problems. Failing to abide by this norm

When I came to Medium Rare, it smelled so good, the food was everywhere in the air. When my family, friends, and I took our seats we were ready to eat and have a good time. In front of me was this African Amerian lady, it was a birthday as well. And to the left of me facing in front of me was some homosexual men that dress nicely. As I continue to look around at these people I start to analyzed that most of the African American were put to back closer to the kitchen and the bathroom. The waitress was very nice, kind, and sweet. When the white women were leaving they were saying some flirt ashes word to him, and the group of table I was seating started to laugh. There were no bad scents in the place, the smell was coming from delicious food, and the noise level was at a high minimum, so basically it was moderate plus the music in the background.

In eating, perceiving others taking a bite trigger action of taking a bite too. This theory was proven in Hermans et al. (2012) experiment which conducted to women. This shown that, when women eat together (conducted on two people per time), they tend to mimic each others time taken a bite. This researched allocated 5 second fixed interval after eating companion takes a bite as mimicry while if time of bite happened outside 5 second, it was not considered as mimicry.

With a sigh, I oblige, eating only a bite of each hors d'oeuvre. Glancing at the gaggle in front of me, they all seem to parrot my movement. I test this

When you eat at a restaurant, first the waiter must ask you if you want water and a starter later on, he/she comes and asks if you picked your order yet if so you would order but

So, perhaps too many experiences like this have left you thinking “I should so telephone that place next time and get my order in, then go pick it up.” Great idea. Very responsible and forward thinking of you. Congratulations on your most excellent and superior adulting. Go ahead and order that extra appetizer. You’re worth it. Everything is going well, and you are still optimistic...right up until you call the number of your favorite spot and discover their Magical Land of Hold. The Magical Land of Hold is an inescapable limbo-esque nether-realm where you can wait any amount of time for a rushed and hurried kitchen or wait staff member to hastily scrawl down your order, and then pray everything is right and to your taste when you drop by to pick up your order. Worst of all,

While I was in the ladies room, my boyfriend took the liberty of communicating both of our orders to the server. When our entrées arrived at the table, there was a great deal of confusion. The server instinctively placed the salad entrée in front of me, regardless of the fact that my boyfriend was the one who order it.