Personal Attachment Analysis

EFT is an attachment based research theory, that suggest that couples have strong need to stay connected (bond) to each other. As such, bonding is very important in marital relationships and if the bond is disappearing, then stressful and negative cycle pattern begins to emerge. Thus, the goal of EFT is to support couples walk through a process of healing (overcoming the negative patterns, rebuilding the connection again, and fortify the bond) (Goldenberg, Stanton, & Goldenberg, 2017). From the assessment that has carried out by the therapist it is clear that Tam and Lisa do not have what it takes to manage or settle conflicts without it escalating into something else. As such, the bonding between them is disappearing and it’s becoming stressful and disturbing to them and their children. Because Jimmy and Emma even though do not see their parent fight or disagree in the open but they can sense the disconnection between their parent and feel the tension whenever both of them where at home. More so, because of the negative pattern that has emerge as a result of lack of secure attachment, there is no more interactions between the couple and each others needs are not met. From the case conceptualization, and to decide what treatment plan should target or focus on the therapist will use the step-by-step treatment manual provided by Johnson and Greenberg (1995) as cited in (Goldenberg et al., 2017) for the therapy process:

on the relationship with the others. So we see that it is not enough that the mother stayes 24 hours with their child but during this time she should give her child love sicurance and affection.

On 12/216, there was a court hearing to allow DHS to have access to children and the home to seek medical care for Zoey following the DV incident. DHS is requesting out of home placement at this time.

Main and Solomon devised the fourth attachment style which has been discussed in the John Bowlby theory. (Main and Solomon -

Idle depression set in because I let school define me, and now that I could not attend, I had nothing to do. I was an undocumented immigrant, so I could not apply for most financial aid, I could not get a job or my driver’s license. I was just existing and harboring jealously in my heart for the friends who seemed to lead a successful life. I quickly realized this was unhealthy and found ways to cope. I volunteered for Let’s Get Ready, a non-profit for low-income students to prepare them for the SAT and college. This activity restored my joy for learning and

I would have to say that Dr. Sue Johnson did the best job explaining the importance of connection and attachment. I feel that because she touched on somethings that I feel on a daily in my current relationship. Dr. Sue Johnson spoke about how the fact a lady was tried in an experiment/project, and she was placed in a brain scan machine while being shocked at your ankles. The lady that was placed in there (Anna) she laid in the machine alone or stranger; she reacted to the pain when the big X on the machine. When she got in with her partner she was way more calm, and felt no pain. That is how I feel I am with my partner, he calmes me down, and makes me feel much more comfortable than any stranger could. Dr. Sue also touched on saying the main question in

Although, I relate to some aspects of both secure and ambivalent attachment styles, I believe that my anxiety has caused me to mainly have an ambivalent attachment style. At a young age, I was diagnosed with an anxiety disorder that has caused me to be timid and nervous in relationships. As someone with an ambivalent attachment style, I find it difficult to maintain a clear view of self, put myself in new social settings, and express myself around people. Even though I know that the Lord wants His followers to let go of worry and fellowship with one another, I feel held back by my attachment style and nerves. I do not believe that my attachment style originated as a result of limited independence during childhood,

As far as I can tell, the best attachment style that describes my caregiver is secure attachment. In psychology, securement attachment is defined as an emotional bond between children and caregivers. In other words, children tend to seek comfort from parents when frightened. My mother, one of the greatest women who has always been there for me through ups and downs and never gave up on me when I did. Regardless of her own lack of education levels, she taught me significant life lessons that I would never have the chance to from anywhere. She would often encourage me to be an individual who should put others before yourself.

Infant characteristics plays a huge role in quality of attachment. Each infant will express different characteristics which will not be preferable for each person. If there is no goodness of fit, the mother or caregiver will not attach to the baby. It is important to remember that the caregiver does not have to attach to the baby.

I regret not taking a break from school and healing my mind, body and soul to succeed in higher education. But I waited too long... I was dismissed from the university and failed to communicate what was happening in my personal life. Perhaps if I would have told the university I was working, taking care of my grandmother and going to school full time they would have advised a sabbatical. I must fulfill this void and make myself, my family and grandmother proud by achieving my lifelong dream of higher education.

With the families that I encounter, It would be best to use two person psychology. One person psychology would not help me build a relationship with my client and it will do more harm than good for the client due to the nature of our relationship. I would become an additional outlet for the client if I were to utilize two person psychology in order to build the relationship with the family and the child. It is important to establish this relationship because the family will benefit from the agency’s services.

During the first 8 months, my daughter formed a strong attachment to me and her father. According to Ainsworth strange situation and patterns of attachment theories, children react differently to being separated from their mother and left alone with strangers. There are four types of attachments known as avoidant, ambivalent, secure, and disorganized-disorientated attachment patterns. For the most part, my daughter had a secure attachment while showing signs of ambivalent attachment behavior at times. According to Thomas and Chess's studies, classic temperamental categories for babies include easy, difficult, and slow-to-warm-up temperaments. Katherine has a slow-to-warm-up temperament which means she takes longer to adjust to new situations

At the beginning of the course the class was introduced the concept of attachment styles. Attachment styles are the types of behavior displayed in relationships shaped by a two-part set of basic assumptions, conclusion, or core beliefs about one’s self and others. In laymen’s terms it is how one person interacts with another either God, spouse, child, friend, or even self. There are four different types of attachment styles and they are: secure, ambivalent, disorganized, and secure. The relationship style that all should aspire to be a secure attachment style, however I would classify myself as having an ambivalent attachment style. This is the attachment style where I believe I am not worthy of love since I am flawed. It also takes the assumption that I will not be able to get the love I need without being angry or clingy.

My paperwork and presentation are ready since last week, but because of my health. I'm not able to come and do my presentation.

The ambivalent attachment style is once that is prone to severe insecurities. One who possess this particular style struggles with feel loved, feeling secure in a relationship, and feeling secure in themselves. This person is always believing that others are better than them. They feel insecure, unlovable, and undesired. The style also comes with a fear of being abandoned or rejected. It is hard for this style of attachment to get over their fear of being alone. It’s a natural tendency. It makes it very hard to have a relationship while having this attachment style because you never feel good enough.