My Developmental Autobiography During infancy and childhood, I would say that my attachment was secure. I had both of my parents growing up and both were always there for me. I felt safe and secure knowing that they were around. Although being that I had both parents around, which contributed to my feeling of safety, my temperament also played key in how I would act when I was an infant and toddler. Sometimes I felt as if I didn’t want my parents to help me do something. I was very independent, but this didn’t mean that I didn’t want my parents by my side. I would say that my temperament and attachment went hand in hand but did not physically affect one another. Although I had a temperament to be independent, that didn’t push me to not …show more content…
Day by day my other friends were pushing me away because of the decisions I was making. I was surrounded by so many people but at the same time felt so alone. I didn’t know what to do. It was then when I started to gain my moral reasoning and got back on track to doing the right thing. I stopped hanging out with the trouble crowd and my nerdy friends took me back. I didn’t care if we were considered nerdy because at the end of the day having a group of 5 true friends was better then being surround by people who didn’t care if I got in trouble or not. Being an adolescent was hard, but through experience I learned who I truly want to be. As I grow into early and middle adulthood, I want to already have my social clock planned. Many different people have different views on what age things should be done (moving out of the house, marriage, children). The range for early adulthood is 25 and 45. During this period, most of my biggest events are going to happen within my life. I want to be able to graduate college with my degree and get a good job that will enable me to support myself to live on my own, get married, have kids, and eventually retire. When I am able to support myself, I am hoping that by time I am age 25 I can move out of my parent’s house and be on my own. Although this age seems later then I would want it to be, it is going to take longer than I thought to finish college and get a job that will enable me to be able to
After taking the quiz, I was surprised to find that I have a secure attachment style. I personally do not think how I was raised contributed to this at all. The way I was raised was very avoidant. My parents didn't encourage me and I did not share my feelings with them often, or at all. I was constantly afraid of being made fun of by them so I didn't share my opinions or thoughts very often. I did not like it when they were mad at me, so I would try my very best to always be on my best behavior. I have been with my boyfriend for almost four years though and I feel like that has really effected my attachment style. He is very supportive and is aware of my needs to be reassured, so I do not often worry about him leaving me or not paying close
Hendrix (1992) explains that since our memories from childhood are usually dim, it is often necessary to analyze present behavior patterns in order to understand how we moved through the early development. Based on that explanation, I came to the conclusion that I developed a secure attachment. One reason I believe I develop secure attachment is because I have the tendency to trust people easily, unless they have proven otherwise. When I meet a new person I often make a good first impression of him and assume he is a good person. It is usually often a person said or did something questionable that I start to mistrust him. Secondly, my parents would tell us how easily I got over after becoming upset with someone. I could not be mad at people for a long time. According to my parents, I would get spanked or scolded for poor behavior and I would leave the room sad or crying only to return a few minutes later and start talking with my parents like nothing had happened.
I knew that I was insecurely attached, but I really struggled to understand why for several weeks. I have two parents who love me very much. When I was very young, they practically doted on me and gave me more than enough attention. They fulfilled my needs and my wants. I haven’t experienced any traumatic life events that would have changed my attachment style. So I was left wondering, how and why am I insecurely attached? What could have happened in my early childhood to cause this insecure attachment.
I was not born in a hospital. I was born at home. My parents lived in a very small town. The hospital was about two or more hours away.
14 years of age and still growing. I would say that I’ve experienced being adult, but I’ve got 4 more years for that. What I have experienced is my coming of age,and transforming over my years of life. Typically, being the outgoing person I am today, you would think I’m an interesting person, doing a lot of fun things. I’m actually not though. Besides the fact that I’m a troublemaker and a person that doesn’t really make a lot of friends now that I am older. My only close friends are from when I was younger. I find it harder for me to make more friends now that I am in Highschool. I also find it easier for me to work better, harder, and more efficient on any of my school work. That’s just about me now. I’ll tell you how I succeeded on who I am today, and the obstacles it took me to get here.
Attachment during infancy and early childhood is extremely important for proper brain development. Whether or not a child grows into a successful adult nearly depends on them forming a secure attachment. Attachment happens when a child feels safe, secure, and protected by their caregiver at all times. demands of an infant or child can be anything from being hungry, being cold, needing to be changed, to just wanting to be held or played with. There are two main types of attachment and both of them have very different out comes. The two primary types of attachment are secure and insecure attachment. More than half of children in the united states form secure attachments, leaving about 40 to 45 percent of children to form insecure attachments. when there are problems with forming an attachment during infancy and early child hood, a child will be more likely to struggle with relationships as an adult. These relationship problems can potentially last for a persons entire life if not addressed. That being said, there are a resources to help children with insecure attachment disorders. Attachment during infancy and early childhood is the most important stage of human development and has a huge impact on brain evolution.
For me, it was a rough time and like many, I regret the way I acted and treated people. Middle school was the wedge that drove our circle of friendship apart. We started having fewer classes with each other, forcing us to branch out our friend group more. Like a balloon with too much air blown into it, our friend group popped. Lily, Katlynn and I were eventually separated and I had begun to branch out and make friends with people I never thought I would. Looking back now, I can tell the type friends I made were not meant ones to be in my life forever. I never had a person with whom I hung out every weekend, or told every part of my life to. No one had known me as well as Lily and Katlynn used to. I had become a floater. I didn’t belong to one stereotypical social group, but made friends with most every person I
Abundant research has been conducted with reference to parenting, attachment, and their effects on a child’s personality. The most notable research is credited to Mary Ainsworth, John Bowlby, and Harry Harlow. These behavioral scientists summarize that a child’s attachment style coupled with the parenting style of a caregiver can have long-term effects that are capable of impacting a child’s behavior and personality.
I am a first generation child to have been born in my family, the first generation who is about to graduate high school and the first generation to go to a college and succeed in life.
My friend, my best friend, my only friend just abandoned me like a dog on the side of the road in the rain. I sat alone at lunch and stood in the rain at recess. It was as lonely as having to be Pluto away from all the other planets. But even though I was lonely, miserable, and just rejected from society, I stayed true to my nerdy self.
The issue of attachment is one that influences an individual throughout their life, affecting many aspects of their development. It is first formed during infancy between the child and their primary care giver and is maintained over the course of their lifespan. The level of attachment that is formed during infancy creates a foundation for psychological development in the course of the individual’s life (Santrock, 2013). Attachment security can be an indication of the quality of an individual’s future relationships, as well as challenges that may arise from such interactions. The following will discuss the attachment theory, biological influences of attachment, factors that contribute to the type of attachment formed during infancy and early childhood, and its impact and complications throughout each stage of development from infancy through late adulthood.
My parents would describe infant me as adventurous,happy,full of energy. When I was younger I had a habit of crawling out of the crib and opening doors and my have tried to invite the mail man in a few times. When I was just learning to walk I would always open the front door when the mailman came or when my grandma thought I had ran away because I had opened multiple doors in the house and later found me playing in the backyard and later would by door knob locks to keep me from opening the doors, I believe I may have been 3 or 4 years old at the time. My favorite stuffed animal was this light brown monkey with a darker face, brown marble eyes that my mom had gotten me when she took me to the Toledo zoo when I was 4 years old I used to take
I was slowly rolling up the street, sitting in the back of school bus number 741, for what felt like a normal Wednesday afternoon. I looked out the window as we entered my street and I couldn’t believe eyes. Little freshman me had my face pressed up against the bus window, desperately trying to comprehend why there could possibly be so many emergency vehicles in my driveway. The bus came to a stop, I ran to the front, and scrambled down the steps. I got off the bus, stopped, and looked at the 7 house walk I took every day to make it home. This walk I did everyday felt ten times as long and as I got closer and closer my vison started to blur, legs started to crumple, and all
The first attachment, Secure attachment, is when individuals have formed secure attachments in childhood, meaning this attachment makes it possible for the individual to have successful, secure relationships in their adult years. This attachment shows the individuals as having strong self-esteem, desire for wanting close connections with other people, and having an optimistic outlook on their relationships and themselves. These individuals that associate with this attachment are well balanced individuals who are independent in themselves and their relationships with other individuals (psych alive). While growing up my mother was not technically the primary caregiver in my life, but more so my grandmother was my primary provider. While I felt a sense of safety and love as a child in her care, I grew independence on my own as the years progressed.
This is due to the fact that I became exceptionally distressed if I was left alone with strangers and was not easily comforted by them, which is characteristic of an insecure attachment. This can be seen in a more obvious manner when my mom responds that I was always by her side even when we would visit family members. Also, since she was often the only one who could comfort me, means that our attachment was not an Insecure/Avoidant one. This type of attachment is when the infant is as easily comforted by a stranger as they are by their caregivers. In addition, seeing that I was not secure enough to explore the environment, like going to play with other kids when we would visit other people’s houses, means that I would not use my mom as a secure base for exploration. Using caregivers as a base for exploration is characteristic of a secure attachment which is why our attachment would not be categorized as a secure attachment. Lastly, considering I would often notice if she left me alone means that I did not display an Insecure / Ambivalent attachment. This type of attachment is illustrated when babies do not notice or are indifferent towards their caregivers before they are left alone which is not something I would