Reflection On Counselling

I believe counseling is a collaborative partnership between client and counselor. Furthermore, this collaborative partnership is built from trust and acceptance of both client and counselor. I hope in conjunction with clients to understand the issues and concerns so to help them tap into their wisdom, creativity, and strengths to meet their current challenges. I believe in a comprehensive perspective through which clients can better comprehend themselves in the framework that our thinking about events can lead to emotional and behavioral upset. Moreover, counselors are to provide a safe environment for clients to explore their challenges and identify ways to move differently in overcoming these challenges.

Divorce shatters a women 's self esteem. The support of family and friends is very important; however it is very healing to share experiences and gain insight from those who have been through this unique type of grief. Patients need assistance to get to the place of acceptance and find closure in order to move on.

Having to free others from your heart means that you are allowing yourself to be happy again. Your heart is a big prison and the real prisoner is actually yourself. As researchers have determined that the power of forgiveness protects a person from negative effects of stress on mental health. They wrote “We found that lifetime stress severity was unrelated to mental health for persons who were highest in forgivingness, significantly associated with poorer mental health for persons exhibiting moderate levels of forgivingness, and most strongly related to poorer mental health for participants exhibiting the lowest levels of forgivingness,” People need to live their life unapologetically because no one is really in charge of what others say or do. Holding unto the bad things that have been done to you is not worth the discomfort, anger and depression that it bring you. A great example of the power of forgiveness is the story behind Matthew West’s song Forgiveness, is about a woman named Renee whose daughter was killed by a drunk driver, but she found a place in her heart to forgive her daughter’s killer and even went so far as to the court and asked for his sentence to be cut in half. they are now working together to stop other from drinking while driving. One must

My heart feels like is has been crushed into a million pieces. As I sit here and reflect about it all, I think about the things I should have done to try to save our marriage.

Five years into our marriage I became an agoraphobia. I had panic attacks every time I thought about leaving the house. That lasted about 2 to 3 years till my youngest children went to school. I was devastated when I found out that my twins had a learning disability. I thought I had done something wrong I blamed myself for it. So, along with the phobia, I was stressed out and having more panic attacks. I was blessed to be able to talk to the school psychologist, she seen that I needed help with my stress/depression. She asked if I wanted to talk to her about it, I said yes. This was the start of my

Some of the hurt feelings are so deeply rooted in our hearts to an extend you feel forgiveness is not an option. There is hope when you

The divorce rate, while fluctuating over time, has reached high percentages lately. As Coltrane and Adams posit, the high divorce rates are due in part to the fact that the expectations of marriage are high in high esteem. When it does not work out, people are anxious to try again to find the perfect partner. Divorce is what allows people that opportunity (Coltrane and Adams p. 201). However, the intricacies of divorce are complicated. Much of the conversation of divorce is focused on fault and blame. Many modern narratives tell stories about how one side, often men, is taken advantage of during a divorce. (Coltrane and Adams p. 203)

Sitting on my bed as I put lotion on, legs swinging, head swaying, as I listen to the sounds coming from the boom box. He walks in and rubs my hair, I looked up and smiled with my mind at peace, not knowing that my life will be changed forever. Paul Boese once said, “Forgiveness does not change the past, but it enlarges the future.” It took me some time to understand Mr. Boese; when I became a mature adult, I realized he was saying a lot with just a few words. Forgiveness helps your trust, attitude, and furthermore your entire outlook on life. I wish I could take back the day it all first started but I have moved on while still forgiving.

As I hung up the phone, my gloomy mood started to dissipate. I wish my former counselor heard this call. We had been talking for the last three weeks about ways to possibly save the marriage, but at this visit I tell her that he moved out and I was ready to accept that the marriage is over.We discussed many things during that office visit; however, right before I left she looked at me and said, “You are single now. The women in your church will see you as a threat to their marriage. A support system is important, but you probably need to find it elsewhere.”

A question that most people don't ask is “What is forgiveness?” What are we forgiving when we say, “I accept your apology.” Forgiveness is the only way a person can be fair to him or her self. It is the only way to get free of

Forgiving is often a conscious decision to let go of the pain, anger and bitterness arising from hurtful situations, then move on and live our lives the best we can despite the past. Forgiveness can take time and it can be difficult, but it’s essential for boosting happiness, mental and physical health. Forgiveness is a funny thing; it warms the heart and cools the sting.”- William Arthur Ward Forgiveness does not change the past, but it does enlarge the future.”- Paul Boese.

The first of which are issues that are personal to me, I realise that there are experiences in my past that may hinder me as a counsellor the most important of which is my inability to maintain eye contact with another person which wasn’t an issue in the past years but in the counselling session might convey a very negative impression to the client for they may interpret it as my disinterest. This issue has prompted me to go to personal therapy and also has increased the relevance and importance of personal therapy in my eyes. Through this experience I have also realised how unresolved issues in the past can impact the counselling process with or without you being aware about them. There are many areas that I need to work on expect this and the major among them is my competence as a counsellor, I still need to develop various professional skills that I will be required to employ in the counselling session and that is something I believe I will gain from my course. The most important thing that believe I need to work on are my own beliefs about counselling, for a long time I didn’t realise that despite being trained for becoming a counsellor I never realised that even to me counselling seemed appropriate as the last option, a choice you make when all else fails and also that with time things will eventually get better and you don’t need therapy to work through it. Both of these beliefs seem wrong to be now that I have gained more objective knowledge of counselling. Firstly, to keep counselling as a last resort the person is embracing a very likely possibility that things would get worse then on rather than better and if proper therapy is undertaken at the very beginning of a problem it will improve things for the individual for definite and may also be more effective and efficient in comparison to if you let it blow to proportion that may severely

Divorce is the dissolution of a marital union by legal means and is a subject of widespread discussion because of the severe stigmatization associated with it. A failed marriage is indicative of a person’s inability to cope with established societal norms and hence, people are subjected to judgement. Many face social exclusion, and for this reason unhappy couples pursue deteriorating marriages. It is also viewed as a ‘personal failure’ and hence, couples make an attempt to salvage their disintegrating marriages.

My Father Walter Burton, who is also my mentor in life, always told me that, “if you’re going to do something in your life, make sure that you do it with a purpose. Everybody makes mistakes, it’s all about learning from them.” Now, I’m not the most perfect human being on this earth. I don’t think anybody is perfect. Everybody makes mistakes that they would wish that they can take back. Including myself for sure. For the 22 years of living, I made a lot of mistakes throughout all these years. Some were little mistakes, and some mistakes were to bare to handle, even for my family. I can live on from a lot of my mistakes, but there is one mistake in my life that I don’t think I can let go for a very long time. And that is getting kicked off

I can speak from experience the guilt and the weight of leaving a situation unresolved is something that haunts me to this day. We lost my brother in law back in 1996 to a car accident. None of us ever said we were sorry or made everything right again. Once he passed away it was too late to make it right for any of us. To carry the guilt and emotions that I carry everyday hurts very badly. We could have fixed the problem. However, no one did because