Part II.Q1: Initial responses to criticism. When I first hear a criticism, my initial response is a ball of anxiety in my chest as if my heart is waiting for my mind to work through the criticism. It takes me a minute to process criticism. When I was younger, I would have personalized the criticism and been host to a barrage of self-deprecating thoughts. I’ve learned to recognize that criticism is helpful for growth and learning; however, not all criticism is helpful or true. For clients’ criticism, I would think back upon my justifications for acting or responding a certain way and look for truth in the client’s statement. I won’t lie, it would be difficult to not personalize and run to the thought: I’m just not meant to be a …show more content…
I would seek to create collaboration with the client to help them feel heard and to help determine if the criticism is warranted. If warranted, I think of ways I can incorporate the feedback into my life. If not, I can acknowledge the client’s feelings and work to repair the rupture.
Part II.Q3: Difficult thoughts feelings which would make it harder to enter counseling. I worry about being judged when asking others for help with my emotional problems. Although I have been in therapy in the past, and it was a phenomenal experience; I still worry whether a new therapist is going to judge me. A new therapist could help dispel my Infotfear of being judged by being honest and open and using the interpersonal process, truthfully. It would feel affirming to have someone notice I’m acting out of fear and to help me process that fear, assuring me that they are not judging me in the process.
Part III.Q1: Approaching Hanks shame-based feelings of worthlessness and inadequacy Reading Hanks story, I felt a sense of identification with aspects of his story which could potentially impede my ability to address his shame-based feelings. In addition, I think I would feel nervous about helping Hank and fear of not being able to help him. Another emotion which might come up is a sense of sympathy instead of empathy. My supervisor could help me with these emotions by allowing me to bring them into supervision and process them, within reason. My supervisor could also be
Mai Ngai’s book, Impossible Subjects, powerfully studies the unfortunately understudied period between 1924 and 1965, the lifespan of the national origins quota system. This era begins with the passage of the Johnson-Reed Immigration Act in 1924 and ends with the lifting of national origins quotas through the passage of the Hart-Celler Act of 1965. The era from 1924 to 1965 remapped the nation by developing both a particular racial and ethnic identity and a "new sense of territoriality" (Ngai p.3). This period demonstrates the most widespread immigration restriction in U.S. history that literally "remapped the nation" (Ngai p.3). Ngai argues that widespread immigration exclusion created an intensified sense of national borders as well as increased security on those boarders. This helped produce what is now defined as the illegal alien (Ngai). Impossible Subjects primarily concentrates on immigrants categorized as illegal aliens, alien citizens, colonial subjects, and contract laborers. Because these are immigrants whose experiences are not greatly represented in our national narrative, the regulations that have governed them have never greatly been exposed, resulting in a collective oblivion within United States history. Ngai turns her research to important analytical use. Ngai’s most interesting lines of argument lie within her analysis of the creation of illegal immigration from Mexico and her analysis of Japanese internment during World War II.
I would supervise and describe different security risks to the client, whilst encouraging them to take notes as to what these are
The importance of respecting the client’s dignity and worth is so that he/she can have their concerns attended to and understood. This attention to their concerns assures the client’s well-being by feeling respected allowing an easier way to
Not feeling judged or criticised by the counsellor or that the counsellor is likely to not accept you if you share something ‘bad’
In his article "Making the Grade," Kurt Wiesenfeld presents a problem regarding the ethical value of grades in modern society. A physics professor, Wiesenfeld opens the article by making the "rookie error" of being in his "office the day after final grades were posted." (paragraph 1) Several students then attempt to influence him to change their grades for the class. What concerns Wiesenfeld is that many of his more recent students consider a grade to be a negotiable commodity rather than accept the grade as an accurate representation of efforts and performance and how much they learned. The author indicates that part of this
I beleive that if I cannot be open and honest with myself then how can I expect the client to be open and honest with me. Through experience I Understand how daunting it is to express your thoughts and feelings, not knowing how you will be judged or how others may react towards you. Personally by offering my clients a safe place to be listened to, showing them unconditional positive regard by showing them understanding and respect and helping them to gain back their locus of evaluation has had a positive effect on me also. I feel reassured that I am a good person that i am useful and happy in the knowledge that i have given my clients a positive experience that I have helped them through a difficult and sometimes dark confusing time I am being who I truely am as this is what I have wanted to do for some time now.
I have noticed that when I am talking with friends about issues they may be dealing with I find it easier to give suggestions or examples of what they could do to help out their situation. I feel that when I am with clients that I am not always confident in what I tell them. I think that part of this is because I do not know the client very well and that with my friends I have known them for years and have been able to see if there is a pattern and how they are able to take feedback.
Also, if the client is presenting them selves and talking about themselves as a stereotype, almost as a cliche of themselves, it would be helpful to look at this in terms of symbiotic identification and individuation processes. A client who says… “I am like my dad, I like my beer, I like my dinner on the table at 6 o’clock, I like my women in short skirts and I support Aston Villa”. Asking open questions that guide the client to an appreciation of the implicit exchange in his relationships might well be a challenge to somebody who has such a stereotypical view of himself.
The personal views I have acquired throughout the year have ultimately affected the views I have on counseling in a few different ways. Growing up, I was raised in a family that views counseling as very acceptable. As a child, I always viewed counseling as a positive action because you are trying to correct a problem you are having and have acknowledged it. When I reached the beginning of highschool, I needed counseling for myself and the depression I was dealing with. As my counseling sessions proceeded, I really found them helpful. At a time where I felt like my own mother couldn’t even understand my own thoughts and feelings, my therapist could . It gave me a hope that at least I had one person I could tell everything I am feeling to and know it is kept in private. It was hard for me when my sessions eventually stopped, and it took me sometime to get over it. Through my own experiences and views, I feel like this pushed me to wanting to support and
Most of the client tend to choose believe on the expertise and accept all the decisions from them in silent without giving any opinions and suggestions. At the end of the project, client may found that it is not perfectly suited them.
Equalize the power relationship between you as the professional worker and the client as the vulnerable individual so that you both become persons in the eyes of the other.
There are issues of confidentiality, understanding what’s in the client’s best interest, the rights of the client, and using the techniques to best assess the client. It is also important to maintain a professional relationship with clients.
Learn to Handle Criticism – To maintain a sense of self-respect we need to learn how to deal with criticism and not take it personally, but to look at it from a detached perspective. Maybe it is false, in which case we should ignore it. If there is some truth we
Communication has always been a process that benefits its users. Although beneficial, some types of communication are not always pleasant. One example of this is criticism. Many people do not like to hear criticism, but it is necessary. Accordingly, acknowledging criticism causes personal improvements to abilities of all types. So how does this exactly happen?
However, I may have not used all the skills necessary to draw out the client’s feelings and meaning in a therapeutic way (Ivey & Ivey, 2007). I used open ended and closed questions to gather more in depth information from the client. For example, “What are your expectations?” and “Would you be satisfied with your grades if your parents do not pressure you?” I also used encouragers such as head nods and repetition of key words stated by the client. I also summarized her story several times to clarify with the client that I was hearing her correctly. I felt that she was motivated to elaborate (Ivey & Ivey, 2007, pg 231). I also used some observation skills such as observing the client’s verbal and non verbal behaviours, e.g. her voice tone, eye contact and the way she was sitting at certain point in the session. While I listened to the tape, I realized that I had empathized and reflected on the client’s feelings a few times and this was done later in the interview. Not reflecting empathy earlier led the client to think that I did not understand her situation. Also, I imposed my values on the client by telling her that eighty percent is good even though she clearly stated that it is really bad for her. I thought this would have made her feel better but it did not. If I were to meet this client again for the same issue I would reflect empathy by saying the following: “Getting good grades means a lot to you. I can see