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Self Reflection Report On Interpersonal Conflicts

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Introduction

There are many conflicts occurred in the world. Borisoff and Victor even thought that these conflicts are already become routines (1989). Thus, many of people could not avoid conflicts with each other. But what is the definition of these interpersonal conflicts? According to the Coser, interpersonal conflict is a struggle over values and claims to scarce status, power and resources in which the aims of the opponents are to neutralize, injure, or eliminate the rivals (Hocker & Wilmot, 1995). I also faced to an interpersonal conflict with my mother in recent months, which affects our parent-child relationship. Therefore, a self-reflection is needed to rememorize what I have done and think about the way to …show more content…

Since I was focusing on playing computer games, I was distorted and I could not receive the message that my mother sent to me. At that time, actually I am just hearing, but not listening. The difference between hearing and listening is, hearing is the process of perceiving sound by the ear. It is just a physical act. You can be just hearing the messages as sound but do know really understand what the messages talking about. Listening, however, is something you consciously choose to do (Treuer, 2011). Listening requires concentration, therefore, the brain can processes and decodes the meaning from words and sentences. In other words, listening is not just hearing, but also receiving the messages or information. In a transactional model, which is a common communication model in the society, the speaker send the encoded messages through the language to the listener. Simultaneously, the listener can also be the speaker and send the messages back (Foulger, 2004). Yet, the listener have to decode the messages first. Because of playing computer games, which regarded as a noise that distorted the communication between my mother and me. As a listener, I did not decode the messages. Therefore, the seed of conflict was

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