Self-reflection report
Introduction
There are many conflicts occurred in the world. Borisoff and Victor even thought that these conflicts are already become routines (1989). Thus, many of people could not avoid conflicts with each other. But what is the definition of these interpersonal conflicts? According to the Coser, interpersonal conflict is a struggle over values and claims to scarce status, power and resources in which the aims of the opponents are to neutralize, injure, or eliminate the rivals (Hocker & Wilmot, 1995). I also faced to an interpersonal conflict with my mother in recent months, which affects our parent-child relationship. Therefore, a self-reflection is needed to rememorize what I have done and think about the way to
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Since I was focusing on playing computer games, I was distorted and I could not receive the message that my mother sent to me. At that time, actually I am just hearing, but not listening. The difference between hearing and listening is, hearing is the process of perceiving sound by the ear. It is just a physical act. You can be just hearing the messages as sound but do know really understand what the messages talking about. Listening, however, is something you consciously choose to do (Treuer, 2011). Listening requires concentration, therefore, the brain can processes and decodes the meaning from words and sentences. In other words, listening is not just hearing, but also receiving the messages or information. In a transactional model, which is a common communication model in the society, the speaker send the encoded messages through the language to the listener. Simultaneously, the listener can also be the speaker and send the messages back (Foulger, 2004). Yet, the listener have to decode the messages first. Because of playing computer games, which regarded as a noise that distorted the communication between my mother and me. As a listener, I did not decode the messages. Therefore, the seed of conflict was
Whether we like it or not, conflict is a part of everyday lives. It can happen to anyone, from your friends to your family.
Initially required is an analysis to the results of the, “Conflict Style Questionnaire” (Rahim and Wagner 122-132). According to the conflict style survey, base two separate situations from past occurrences; one with someone close to me, and the second with someone who I am not so interpersonal with. Moreover, the two personal conflicts that I apply to the questionnaire, base from two diverse relationships-personal as well as an impersonal, along with various context and environment pertaining to the particular
Conflict could be stated as a ‘a solemn difference between two or more beliefs, ideas or interests.’ In general, it is a fairly indispensable part of our lives as well as shapes individuals into who they are, and due to the consequences that linger around conflicts , it affects the relationship they have built with others along with their opinions towards them. This is evident in the award-winning play written by William Shakespeare, Romeo and Juliet. In which the two families , Capulet and Montague constantly compete each other, and in the midst of this heat, ‘a pair of star cross’d lovers’ strive for the sake of their short-lived love; as a result causing what is now known as ‘the tragedy of Romeo and Juliet’. Correspondingly, in S.E
One of the first conflicts in the film causes a bigger conflict in later years and later in the plot between the same characters. A conflict is defined as "Conflict is a fact of human life. It occurs naturally in all kinds of settings. Nations still struggle, families fracture in destructive conflicts, marriages face challenges and often fail, and the workplace is plagued with stress." in the textbook "Interpersonal Conflict" by Wilmot. Meriam-Webster defines conflict in three ways. Firstly a war, fight or battle. Secondly "competitive or opposing action of incompatibles :antagonistic state or action (as of divergent ideas, interests, or persons)" or "mental struggle resulting from incompatible or opposing needs, drives, wishes, or external or internal demands". Lastly "the opposition of persons or forces that gives rise to the
At the core of all conflict analysis is perception (Wilmot & Hocker, 2011). In interpersonal conflicts, people react as though there are genuinely different goals, there is not enough of some resource, and the other person actually is getting in the way of something prized by the perceiver (Wilmot & Hocker, 2011).
Hocker, J. and Wilmot, W. (2014). Interpersonal conflict (9thed). New York, NY: McGraw-Hill Companies, Inc.
Conflict is inevitable in any personal relationship or among members of any group. While we encounter many types of conflict in our lifetime, we often look for ways to avoid conflict. So, why do we run away from dealing with our conflict? It is often because many of us fear the conflict will escalate into a situation we will not be able to sustain. “As conflicts escalate, they go through certain incremental transformations. Although these transformations occur separately on each side, they affect the conflict as a whole because they are usually mirrored by the other side. As a result of these transformations, the conflict is intensified in ways that are sometimes exceedingly difficult to undo” (Pruitt, and Kim 89). We
The movie “Temptation” is an example of interpersonal conflict. The movie is filled with different conflicts types mostly associated with miscommunication between two or more of the main characters. The genesis of interpersonal conflict is always inevitable where there is some level of relationship between individuals or groups who interact with each other in different social and professional settings. According to Sole, “The way in which each person deals with Conflict varies based on experience, personality and communication style. Often we do not know how we will deal with a particular circumstance until it occurs (Sole, 2011).
What is conflict? Even something as basic as a universal definition for the word conflict seems to vary from source to source. A literature review focusing on conflict defined it as “the interaction of interdependent people who perceive incompatibility and the possibility of interference from others as a result of this incompatibility” (Brinkert 2010). Often times the disagreement results not from a concrete difference, but rather a difference in perception (Ellis & Abbott 2012). One of the most important factors effecting conflict management is the resolution style used. The most often used tool for classifying how conflict is managed is the Thomas-Kilmann Conflict Mode Instrument (Iglesias & Vallejo 2012).
On a crisp autumn day in 2016, while hidden away from the cares of my daily routine in my family room, I was called upon to elaborate on an important aspect of my life. It took some time for consideration to determine how to best portray a journey I have taken in managing conflict, as I am not a young woman. Decades filled with the blessings of being the mother of disabled children, years lived as a single parent, as well as the process of maturation, tempered by the fires of adversity, have molded me into who I am today. As I reflected, I wondered if would I know how to deal with conflict as I do now without the life experiences I have had? Certainly not! The following paragraphs will describe my primary conflict style and why I use it, how I have changed constructively in this area, how the other four styles of conflict management may serve me, and where I hope to arrive as I continue to make my way along the journey of my life.
The topic that I have chosen to discuss throughout this paper is Managing and Resolving Conflicts in a Relationship. This topic is very important to me simply because, I personally see a lot of relationships failing, including some of mines due to lack of resolving and managing conflicts correctly. By the end of this paper I hope that I have helped the reader understand and eliminate any conflicts that confront their everyday lives.
Places value on individualism, self-assertion, and competition. Not common in cultures that prioritize cooperation, keep others from failing, finding areas of agreement
There are numerous entities and situations that can be avoided throughout the durations of one’s life, but there are a few things that cannot be escaped being a United States citizen; and that’s taxes and conflict. It’s hard to go a single day without running into some form of conflict, whether it be constructive, or destructive conflict. For me, conflict has always seemed to either go really good, or take a turn for the worst. Over the past few months I’ve attempted to work on some of my strategies to better deal with my day-to-day interpersonal conflicts, so I get in the rhythm of trying to successfully complete an altercation. With that being said, I would like to discuss a conflict that was both relational and organizational. This conflict
Conflict is defined as the behaviour due to which people differ in their feelings, thought and/or actions. Collins (1995) states that the conflict is a ‘serious disagreement and argument about something important’ and also as ‘a serious difference between two or more beliefs, ideas or interests’ (cf. Kumaraswamy, 1997, p. 96). In general it is believed that conflicts are the underlying cause of disputes. In other words, dispute is a manifestation of the deep rooted conflict. A dispute is defined as ‘a class or kind of conflict, which manifests itself in distinct, justifiable issues. It involves disagreement over issues capable of resolution by negotiation, mediation or third party adjudication’
Conflict is in inevitable part of our everyday lives. Since no two people view things in the exact same manner, disagreement will most certainly arise at some point in time. Conflict is simply a difference of opinion and is considered to be a normal part of our everyday lives. There are several different forms of conflict and not all of them are considered to be bad. This paper will discuss the causes of conflict, the different types of conflict, and barriers to conflict. According to Communication Research Associates, conflict is a condition of imbalance within an individual (Communication Research Associates, 2005, p. 178). Keep in mind that just as there are disadvantages to conflict, there are also several advantages.