Strengths And Conflicts In The Conflict Between My Roommate And Me

Conflict need not be catastrophic or personal conflicts are simply part of being human. Deal with issues as they arise, avoiding conflict makes situations worse. Time does not resolve matters instead it decreases the chance of a positive outcome. Attempt to understand the other person's point of view because dismissing the other's views, assigning blame, and exclusive focus on your own perspective are all counterproductive. Do not judge emotions, no one's feelings are more or less “right” than the other. Emotions reflect a valid perspective of an individual even if you don't understand it; acknowledge the other person's reaction as important. Focus on the behavior, situation or problem area without attacking the person involved. Do not assume your values or beliefs are “right”, they reflect a view of the world from your unique perspective. Respecting another's viewpoint as equally valuable opens an opportunity for learning and growth (Lifetips moving up in life, 2000).

We blame ourselves, and then we start to question our likability, and we wonder why we don't have that fantasy group of friends that everybody else in the world must have. Conflict is a process in which people disagree over significant issues, thereby creating friction (Lulofs & Cahn, 2000). This is not a simple occurrence, but there needs to be various factors included for it to be considered a conflict. Both parties must have opposing interests, thoughts, perceptions, and feelings, and they must then recognize the existence of different points of view (Lulofs & Cahn, 2000). In addition, the disagreement is not just a one time event but something that continuously occurs. Though it can be destructive it can also be beneficial, for example a relationship with little to no conflict leads to complacency but a relationship with too much conflict can lead to dysfunctional behaviors by both

Conflict is everywhere we go, at home, school, church in the community and especially at work. How we decide to handle the conflict at hand will determine whether we strengthen the relationship or break it up. Each situation can be dealt with in a way that can bring healing instead of animosity and further pain. Most of the time conflict is looked at as a negative experience that most people refuse to be a part of because of their own lack of conflict management skills; but if both parties are willing to sit down and discuss the issue, there is a possibility of a positive

forget the issues, and focus on only the positive. Love is all of it; the fighting, arguing,

“When I fall in love with a girl, I see her as center of world; I want spend every second with her and I am willing to do everything for her. Before I went abroad, she promised that she will wait for me, no matter how long, and I believed in her, of course. Four months of waiting is a hell. I work hard every day, as I promised, for buying her a beautiful engagement ring. I know she is going to be happy. I started to feel anxious. What did she do today, Why didn’t she contact me, Will she love somebody else? I am so afraid of losing her. I keep asking her, Do you still love me? She says I am like little girl. She is right; I should be strong enough, she is waiting for me! But distance is a poison that can destroy love. One month before I go back, she changed. She began to not talk to me anymore. I awake from sleep and find my phone, “I miss you”. “Ok, go back to sleep.” When I awake again in morning, telling her, I still miss you. She says, I know. Good

“Personal space is a region of defended space surrounding someone. Trends of personal-space utilization might differ across human societies. Personal space varies from other kinds of defended space by being an encompassing bubble, which progresses with the person” (Psychology Dictionary). Defining an individual’s personal space can be difficult for because this boundary is often different between countries, environments and societal upbringings. An individual space may be different from person to a person or person of another culture. However, this often becomes apparent when they meet someone from another society or environment. How close is to close? What boundaries are broken when you invade someone’s personal space? Let us examine the expectation and boundaries of personal space between.

I know , okay I fucked up severely and I feel so guilty and regret it to a point I can't explain to you, if I could go back, I would. I can't go back though and I can't undo what I did and I'm going to have to learn to live with that. That person I was that night was me, but at the same time it wasn't. And that probably doesn't make any sense but it's not like me what so ever to do something like I did and I'm so unbelievably sorry and I know that those words probably mean absolutely nothing but I don't know what else to say. I know you dropped a lot of people and probably turned down a lot of people and I know that wasn't easy. And I know I promised you, and I probably lost all of your trust. And if you don't want to do this anymore I understand

was upset with her because of how she would consider lying to me, I was only trying to help. After a while, I came to a conclusion that she lie because she wanted to rather she was afraid and not ready to say anything. I didn't want to stress her out over it and only wanted to help, but I now understand why she couldn't. She was conflicted between pleasing others and

Initially the areas of conflict I believe materialize from two prominent places. The primary conflict is the miscommunication between both Pat and Chris, which results in subverted expectations. For example, Pat and Chris stated they fully do not understand each other however, that presents another question. The conflict isn’t that they don’t understand each other, but instead a failure to recognize the underlying problem which has created the immobilizing tension. For instance, this phenomenon because of the failure to identify the underlying problem has created a state of disharmony. A logical description, would explain this as both roommates perceptive there is conflict meaning there is an incompatibility of their action. This presents the

Communication is a big part of a relationship without there can be room for miscommunication. In order to get through future situations we need to use I statements so no one feels that they are being talked down to. Feeling judged is a big problem that has been the topic of all of our arguments. With this break through last meeting I think that we will now co-exist as roommates more smoothly and more effective

One of my dominant conflict handling styles was the avoiding style. This means that I avoid conflict rather than address the problem at hand, in addition to downplaying the severity of the problem all together. I had problems with my roommate freshman year, and we did not get along very well. There were several instances where his choices affected my living situation, and I did not feel comfortable being in the room. Instead of communicating these concerns to him, I just suppressed them and vented to my friends and family about the problem. I usually just got over the problem and we ended up cohabitating and leaving on good terms at the end of the year.

understand how she views the world in the terms of spirituality and that I have never made her feel

I apologize and she just looks at me with a blank expression. I see a look I’ve never seen: she is worried. She is nervous of what the future holds. She is uncertain. She is scared. And I know that it is all my fault.

The subject I’ve chosen to write about is when my roommate (A) at the college residence wasn’t pulling his weight in cleaning duties. He had never lived without his parents before and must not have realized he had to clean up after himself. Time and time again, I would have to wash his (A) dishes and pick up after him. At first, we got along super well and for a while I avoided confronting him because I figured a few dishes here and there wasn’t too bad. We’d often have parties at the house and he would never help us clean up the mess the following day. Finally about half way through the semester, I confronted him and we came to a compromise that he would clean on certain days, and I would clean up the other days. It went well for the first week and then on his cleaning days he’d say I’ll clean up tomorrow just leave everything where it is. Sure enough, three days later, nothing had been cleaned and the house was a disaster. I spoke to my two other roommates (B&C) about him and they agreed that they were sick of doing his chores and living with him too. The root cause must have been personality differences. In which I mean that myself, and my two other roommates (B&C) standard of cleanliness was not the same as roommate A’s. Our style of living was just not the same as roommate A so we had a talk with him and told him we would like for him to move out. Upon our request, he had moved out soon thereafter. A couple days later, he was disgruntled and

For the application project, I decided that I would like to discuss my relationship with my current roommate. This relationship is very important to me because we are living together for the rest of the remaining academic year. Initally, I was supposed to live with one of my very close friends, but she got a last minute overseas study abroad scholarship. For this reason, I had to find a last minute roommate. All my friends had already made living arrangements, which forced me to find a random roommate through the University of Cincinnati housing system. Since she was a random roommate, I knew it was going to be difficult for me as I knew nothing about her. Upon living with her, we had numerous issues with how we lived together but were never spoken about. I then spent the first 2 months trying to get to know her better to avoid any future issues that we were having since we started to live together.