Talk To Yourself Analysis

What am I going to do or what do I need to achieve step 1

The framework has seven key steps that will walk you through beginning with increased self-awareness, all the way to driving action to achieve desired outcomes. Step one begins with what they call “Start with the heart.” That is focusing on what you want to achieve from the conversation, but also what you don’t want as a result of the conversation. Step two looks at how to identify when a conversation is becoming crucial, and if the dialogue is becoming un-safe and unproductive. Step three describes how to bring the conversation back to a safe dialogue with an emphasis of ensuring mutual purpose and respect. Step four shows how to become aware of the stories that we might tell to ourselves regarding the conversation. There are definitely times that I have had to sit back and evaluate if what I am telling myself is actually reasonable or something that I convinced myself to believe or desire. Step five encourages the individual to formulate and tell their message, and give others the opportunity to tell theirs. This is where you state your case, listen to others perspectives, making it a safe place to share each other’s thoughts and perspectives. Step six leads us to exploring other paths, asking questions, mirroring back what you hear, and

One will either come out of a situation with a positive or negative concept of these surroundings. Poor communication can cause one to have a poor perception of oneself. One's emotional state, dislikes, likes values and body image are affected by the opinions of others and can render one to have an inferior and insecure self-concept.

In order to have a well-rounded mindsight, one must possess the three capabilities of openness, observation, and objectivity. These three characteristics make up the tripod that supports an effective and efficient mindsight, thus leading to a better understanding of oneself (Siegel, 2010, p. 48). Openness refers to recognizing antagonistic thoughts and negating their effect; observation is the ability of self-recognition even in times of distraction; lastly, objectivity is the ability to not let a certain feeling preoccupy or consume our thoughts. In the past, I have struggled with these three characteristics that have prevented me from developing a healthy mindsight. Throughout high school, I battled with extreme self-confidence issues, and found it difficult especially to be open and objective with myself. Consumed by these unhealthy thoughts, I would allow my own restrictive judgements of myself to devour my life and dominate every aspect of it. Unbeknownst to me, I was enabling these judgements to control my life, rather than realizing that I was only battling myself. As I grew older, I came to realize that learning to be objective and dismissive to unwanted and detrimental thoughts was the key to overcoming my issues.

The first step is using clear vision; using focused vision allows us to avoid distraction; vision tells us whether or not we have a meaningful purpose in life and helps us direct the change while developing plans for success. Secondly, we have values, these guide us and show the path of right and wrong; without the use of guided values

As we all know, the mind is a very powerful thing and your own mind can have a powerful control or influence over what you do, say or think. It is one of the many contributing factors that prevent you from achieving what you want to achieve. If you want to get out of your own way, take small steps in identifying what your mind is telling you. Is there a voice in your head that speaks negative words or talks

It doesn't require that you transform your way of thinking. All that is required is that you start to re-train your mind to focus on the present moment - the only place and time where you can actually do what needs to be done to the very best of your ability. And, although your mind is conditioned to pay no attention to the present moment, training your mindn to do just that is amazingly simple. Like all great journeys, you start with the first steps - you start small. You consciously decide that some of your routine, habitual chores will act as training sessions for your mind. You deliberately decide that, in doing these chores, you will pay an extra-ordinary amount of attention to what you're doing. After all, that's how we train ourselves to live our ordinary lives

Be open minded- Even when you have already considered your solution, it is basic that you consider others and keep an open mind for any changes that may come your way.

It may be naïve to focus solely on reducing negative self-talk as it is important for a balance of positive and negative thoughts for well-being and your state-of-mind (Schwartz & Garamoni, 1986). As research indicates that negative self-talk is not associated with reduced performance therefore there

The next step is FAITH, It is impossible to translate burning desire into action without belief. You must totally believe in yourself, in your steps and more importantly, in your plan. You have to know this 100% that you'll undoubtedly succeed and never ever doubt yourself. Of course, this is easier said than done. Autosuggestion is one of the best ways to influence yourself.

A good starting point is with The Secret by Rhonda Byrne and, without going into too much depth here, might urge you to listen to this presentation a few times over the coming weeks. As the concept starts to make sense to you, reinforce this with a positive communication and test the results during your commute to work, at the office or even in the supermarket, after all, checkout staff have feelings too! As you start to explore this approach, keep your outlook bright. The future is only a perspective of your thoughts until it becomes a reality. Those thoughts will seek to nurture and protect by projecting fear or concerns. So, over these next few weeks, let's try to overlay these projections with success. Don't worry if this takes a long time to achieve and don't worry if the results fail to manifest immediately, if you are like me, it is a long journey but do keep in mind that no matter what is going on around you, there are always

If one has poor self-concept and sees oneself as unworthy then they will present themselves this way, which will result in a negative response from people. If one feels good about oneself, they will present themselves as worthy, which will result in a more positive response from people. The perceptions, beliefs and attitudes that steam from self-concept, will affect one's social surroundings. One will either come out of a situation with a positive or negative concept of these surroundings. Poor communication can cause one to have a poor perception of oneself. One's emotional state, dislikes, likes values and body image are affected by the opinions of others and can render one to have an inferior and insecure self-concept.

Have you ever thought about why we feel about ourselves the way we do? Do you hate yourself or are you confident about who you are? Either way you feel about yourself, this all comes from your self-concept. According to Steven McCornack’s Reflect and Relate “self-concept is your overall perception of who you are.” My self-concept is constantly changing due to confidence boosts or if I become depressed and sad; these factors also influence my self-esteem. My self-concept helps determine how well I am able to communicate with others. “Some psychologists and sociologist have advanced theories that suggest we learn who we are through four basic meaning: our communication with other individuals, our association with groups, roles we assume, and our self-labels” (Beebe 35).

The first step I am going to reflect on is competence. This is what my nephew had to say, he felt I could evaluate any situation and come up with a solution, I am comfortable asking for help when needed, and takes step by step approach’s to any situation. I feel comfortable with his analysis when it comes to family and how I am at home. It is when I leave my comfort zone I feel I could improve upon my competence. I lose confidence when making decisions at work. It is just easier asking for help.

Years ago I read a passage in a book by: “Louise L. Hay” she said; every morning you can get up and look in the mirror and decide what kind of day you are going to have.” The beauty of it is, you can get up the following morning and decide all over again. This is a powerful statement, letting us know we have the power to control our feelings and shape our outlook on life. If you are telling yourself positive things, it will help you build a positive self-esteem.