Tiger Moms Is Strict Parenting

Parents usually have the best intentions – like protecting their children from life's hardships and preparing them for adulthood. However as with many other aspects of parenting, the results do not always match the intentions. Overprotective parents generally want to protect their children from harm, hurt, pain, failure, unhappiness, bad experiences, rejection, and disappointment (Lindsey 1). However, parents must realize that overprotective parenting has certain side effects. Parents believe that they are doing a favor for their children by keeping them safe without realizing that this parenting style can have severe effects on children such as robbing children of the essential life skills that they need in order to have a healthy

The most influential person in an individual life happens to be the parents. Parents teach their children expected behavior, boundaries, and rules. Although, children are always more attentive to their parent’s behavior; something parents quite often do not realize. If the parents walk does not match their talk their; kids will not take in consideration what they have been taught. Kids always have that mentality of “if you did it, I will do it too because it is okay.” Children learn more from their parents character than their teachings; demonstrating that actions speak louder than words. Clearly, what individuals are exposed in their adolescents shapes their mentality affecting how they perceive situations and people. A lot of things

Teenagers are often seen in society as careless and dangerous in the U.S. society. With many articles on adolescence, this thought stays true. Although, in a basic psychology book the author contradicts this thought. The author of a basic psychology book merely states that peers often coincide with parents on encouraging teens to do well. So, what’s the truth? The best way to answer this is to analyze articles that have strong support for their opinion on adolescence. An article by the name of “Why Teen-Agers Are the Worst” by Elizabeth Kolbert explores the possibilities on why teenagers may be dangerous. Kolbert’s thesis is “At moments of extreme exasperation, parents may think that there’s something wrong with their teen-agers’ brains. Which, according to recent books on adolescence,

& Rider, E. pg. 343). Learning to function as an adult, make decisions independently, and preparing to leave home, thereby separating from parents and becoming their own free-thinking person. During this time, parenting style is important. Parents who allow a free exchange of ideas concerning the wants and needs of the child, give more freedom as the adolescent gains and exhibits good decision-making skills, and supports and guides them thru more elaborate decisions tend to raise competent, self-assured individuals. Parents who are either overly strict and critical, not giving the adolescent opportunities to contribute to making decisions or criticize an adolescent when they assert themselves may very well raise incompetent adults. Conversely, if parents are detached from the adolescents, leaving the child to make most or all decisions on their own, has the same negative effects (Sigelman, C. & Rider, E.). Autonomy is important in developing a healthy self-esteem.

Since the child is aware of why their parents set such rules, they respect their parents, and are more likely to respect the law as well. Children raised in families with these parenting styles are “self-confident and achievement-oriented in school and get better grades than do children whose parents have other parenting styles” ( Lifespan: Development, 203).

Authoritative parents engage in discussions and debates with their adolescent, although ultimate responsibility reside with the parent (Kroger, 2004). Research demonstrates that adolescents of authoritative parents learn how to negotiate and engage in discussions. They understand that their opinions are valued. As a result, they are more likely to be socially competent, responsible, and autonomous Authoritarian parents believe the adolescent should accept, without question, the rules and practices that they

Some may not realize it, but parents have a huge influence on their teen. A parent who may seem “toxic” to the child will make the child want to avoid becoming like that parent. Carl Pickhartd says in his article says that these “revisionist parents”, “... sometimes end up parenting the same. So you have a mom brought up by strictly repressive parents who wants to give her adolescents freedom she never had. However, by becoming too permissive, her teenagers careen out of safe control until only by imposing severe measures can she curb their wild ways. Now she becomes even stricter than her parents were with her, recreating the influence she swore she would never impose on children of her own” (Adolescence and parental influence). These parents

In “Two Kinds” by Amy Tan and “Tiger Mom？s: Is Tough Parenting Really the Answer?” by Annie Murphy Paul, Amy’s mother and Amy Chua are same because they’re both very strict with their daughters, but they are different because after argument in the article, Amy’s mother completely gives up her control of Amy instead of Chua still dominate some part of her daughter’s time. First of all, Amy’s mother and Amy Chua are in the same way because they both very strict with their daughters. For example, in page 1 of “Two Kinds” “[Amy] had to look at a page from the Bible for three minutes and then report everything [she] could remember.”

We need to emphasize the fact that they are the true source to our future. When the water dries up in the land, and the moon will eventually stop so are the stars, and the world might become dark, they could become the light that fills up the empty spots “We need to recognize that young people are the most precious and fragile resources of our society.”(p.88) They are the future of our next generations that could change the world; if we do not recognize them it would become a beach without a shore. As an adult, we tend to forget that we were also adolescents, maybe parents are trying to achieve through their children, what they wanted to do when they were adolescents but they failed to do so because of their parents. Competitions that adults have created have given pressure to Today’s adolescents. Order to unlock their potential find who they are, they need a room to fit in. “pressuring their children, emphasizing external measures of success, being overly critical,

Parents might apply the finding from my research article by becoming Authoritative parents. Authoritative parents produce successful children. Based on the research article, authoritarian produce children, who academic performances are low. These children also have low self-esteem and self-worth.

There are three types of parenting styles that affect children in various ways. The first type of parenting that seems to work the best on children is the authoritative style. Authoritative parents are neither too strict nor too willing to give in to their children’s wants. They encourage their children to grow in responsibility and give them opportunities to show they are independent. They set down rules that are expected to be followed, but are not too harsh. This seems to be

Amy Chua’s author of “Adapted Form Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mothers’ stirs up debate. Chua’s compares ‘Chinese parenting’ method to ‘Western parenting’. She uses the term ‘Chinese mother” loosely referring to Korean, Indian, Jamaica, Irish, and Ghanaian parents (pg 305) too. She also states the term ‘Western parents’ loosely since there are several varieties. Chua’s approach to child-rearing is more harmful and threating to a child’s well-being and development. Her methods are harsh and discounts her daughters Sophia and Louisa feelings. This method consist of stressing academic success by all means and shaming to achieve successful adults. There is no child leisure time and the child has no freedom or power to choose their activities. Lastly, her parenting style discourages creativity, interpersonal skills and research shows this tiger mother method is not the best.

Being a mother is to support your children all the way even if they choose to take the road you don’t want them too. Mother’s play a responsible role in children’s health, education and complete wellbeing. In the article, Mother Inferior? Hanna Rosin, the author talks about her mothering style, which is the complete opposite of Amy Chua from The Battle Hymn of The Tiger Mother. Hanna Rosin would allow everything that Amy Chua wouldn’t allow for her children. Her idea of raising children were different, she wanted her child to be happy in fact she never pressured her child into doing anything. Hanna Rosin had some good points; however, some of her points I cannot agree with her. I agree with Hanna Rosin when she said

Adolescents are faced with a lot of pressure from many different people. They get put under pressure from their parents to their peers. They also get

It is apparent throughout research parents have a high impact on the outcomes of adolescent emotional regulations and the behavior during adolescents (Feldman, 2011; Jabeen, Haque, & Riaz, 2013; Millings et al., 2012). Jabeen et al. (2013) states "parents play a crucial role in the social and emotional development of children" (pg.85). This part parent's play can be effected as stated above and the fluidity of parenting styles and their effects on adolescents should be observed. Through research looking at performance in school by Areepattamannil (2010), finds that supportive parenting yields higher achievement in school and is nearly as close in relationship to socioeconomic status.