Often times I tend to have trouble consistently listening to a person talking. I particularly have trouble when they speak for an extended period of time. Some of the listening problems I tend to have are pseudo listening, selective listening, and evaluative listening. The situations that these habits occur differ, but often stem from me being uninterested in what the other person has to say. Nobody can deny that the mind often wanders when listening to one speak. This is why pseudo-listening (pretending to listen while thinking about something else) is a problem, particularly for me. After observing my listening habits I noticed that as I listen to someone, a professor for example, as they give their lecture they will say a word or phrase that reminds me of something. I immediately stop paying attention to what …show more content…
This particularly happens when speaking to someone about politics. I have very strong opinions on certain current issues involving politics, such as abortion for example. Being that it is a highly controversial topic, there will always be someone who disagrees with your opinion. When someone tries to debate, or argue the topic, I don’t bother paying attention to their reasoning because I want to defend my stance more than anything else. Evaluative listening is likely my most detrimental listening habit, because when arguing, one should be listening to the opposing side’s reasoning, so one can form a proper rebuttal. Tying in to my problems with selective listening, when I’m listening to someone who I don’t care for talk about their personal issues and dilemmas, I will pay them no mind and offer them short responses such as “oh” or “yeah”. This is something else I should work on especially being an adult, it’s important to be mature when talking to someone you may not care for, but remaining cordial and
You may be familiar with passive listening, passive listening is where an is involved in a conversation however, multitasking by listening to several different conversations or events happening in the background (Bell & Smith, 2010; Jennings, 2012). There has been perhaps a number of times you have slipped into this passive state of attention it seems as if you are actively listening to a conversation but truly, there are other things happening that seem to be more worthy of your attention (Jennings, 2012; Scanlan, 2011).
I would like to start with my non-listening behavior which is my poor listening habit. There’s a lot of kinds of non-listening style including pseudo listening which is also the listening habit that I have. People who are listening to other people with giving the appearance of being attensive
First, mindful listening is important in communication just hearing what someone says is not enough we need to listen to who were are communicating with and give them our full attention. “To listen well, we rely on our ears, minds, and hearts” (Wood, 2016, p. 163). I have a problem with selective listening and I have worked on this to become a better listener throughout class with my family.
Listening is not the same as hearing. Take time to listen carefully to what others are saying through both their verbal and non-verbal communication.
I was guilty of believing that listening and hearing were one in the same. After learning the distinct differences between the two I quickly realized that I was “mindlessly listening” in scenarios which I believed I was mindfully listening. One form of listening that was discussed during a lecture was “filling in the gaps”. I had never heard of this concept, but once it was explained I discovered that I was guilty of practicing this poor listening habit. I seem to fill in the gaps when the person I am communicating with is telling a lengthy story or discussing a topic for a drawn-out period. I tend to zone out for a few second and miss out on key details being discussed. Rather than asking the other person to repeat the information I was unable to retain, I fill in the gaps. I would do this because I did not want my friend or family member to feel as if what they were saying was unimportant. However, filling in the gaps is worse because when I assume the details I missed, I am receiving an incorrect and incomplete message. I have noticed that I fill in the gaps most with one of my friends from high school. He likes to go out and party and have wild nights, which is the exact opposite of myself, and when he tells his stories I find that I am not paying full attention. I assume that all his stories are exaggerated so I tend to overlook many of the small details and fill
In classes after finishing a big test from a previous class, I have used the listening barrier of Self-focus. I can avoid listening
Empathy is the way you feel or understand another person; it is a deep emotional understanding of a person’s feelings or problems. It is as we often hear people say put yourself in someone else’s shoes. An empathic listener gives the other person his or her undivided attention. When being an empathic listener you have to focus on the words the speaker is saying and not let yourself be distracted. As you focus on what the person is saying, you can respond when needed. If you don’t
According to (Robertson, 2005) by consistently listening to a speaker, you are conveying the idea that: “I’m interested in you as a person, and I think that what you feel is important. I respect your thoughts, and even if I don’t agree with them, I know that they are valid for you. I feel sure that you have a contribution to make. I’m not trying to change you or evaluate you. I just want to understand you. I think you’re worth listening to, and I want you to know that I’m the kind of a person you can talk
Listening is often confused with hearing. This serious misconception can lead us to believe that good listening is instinctive. In fact, good listening is an active, sophisticated process – a learned behavior – that demands focus and attention. Listening takes place on
There are several methods to achieving effective listening. Concentrate on what others are saying. Make yourself shut out other challenges facing you and simply listen. Don't allow yourself to do other things as you listen, such as answering the phone, doing paperwork, or checking your e-mail. Effective listening is difficult and requires all of your attention and effort. The listener needs to focus on what is being said so they will not misinterpret what the speaker is trying to say. Paraphrase or rephrase what the speaker was saying in your own words to ensure that you heard the information accurately. It is important to
Listening is a vital element of communication and it is very much different from hearing sense of human. A meaningful communication requires both a good listener and a speaker. However, the effect of a listening style may vary depending on the occasions and situations a listener is in. Sometimes, speaker exhibit ineffective style such as defensiveness, ambushing, pseudo-listening, stage hogging and selective listening in their communication tracks.
Anybody can become a good listener if they are committed to learn how and are willing to work hard. The first mistake that people tend to make when listening is to not make any type of comments while listening. They tend to just stand there and listen while the speaker talks. This can become very frustrating for the speaker and the listener. While the speaker may feel like he isn't being
In this class, I’m learning quite a bit about listening. I’m learning how to listen and communicate better with people, especially when the things I’m listening to and talking about are more on the sensitive side of topics. I’ve always been a very closed off person, even from friends and family. I️ would have a hard time expressing my thoughts and emotions verbally and would get upset with people when they would try to pry. Friends and family would get angry with me when I️ wouldn’t talk or wouldn’t listen to them when all they were really doing was trying to help me. Very frequently when out in public it’s easy to observe this same kind of people or behavior. There are many more people out in the world with poor listening and communicating skills than you may think. For instance, those who get flustered when discussing certain topics whether it’s at the store or a coffee shop. If you like people watching, then you know what I’m talking about.
When listening to other people, you should not be thinking about what you are going to say next when the other person stops talking. Instead, you should really listen to what they are saying without interrupting them. You need to try to understand them which will build a bridge between
1. Stop talking-let others explain their views, concentrate on what the speaker is saying, not what your next comment will be. 2. Control your surroundings-remove competing sounds.