Who Are You

Who am I? This question asked so often suggests that there is actually a reasonable answer. Almost as if our own personal being were a fixed thing. Generally, people who ask this type of question are usually struggling with their identity and thus are looking for something to make sense of themselves. The irony is that the more you seek to identify who you are, the more you are exposed to being fragile. Some people spend their live looking for an answer that could possibly satisfy them but still never find anything. The main focus shouldn't be on discovering who you are but on considering the social influences that have affected you.

5. Self-actualisation – the need for personal fulfilment and the need to grow and develop.

Erikson believed that people develop in psychosocial stages. He emphasized developmental change throughout the human life span. In Erikson's theory, eight stages of development result as we go through the life span. Each stage consists of a crisis that must be faced. According to Erikson, this crisis is not a catastrophe but a turning point. The more an individual resolves the crises successfully, the healthier development will be.

Perfectionism keeps individuals frozen and full of fear. Perfectionism is wanting nothing less than being perfect at everything i do. Being perfect at everything is ok, however, perfectionism certainly comes with cons. Most of the time I lose sight of the “big picture” i worry more about details. this stops me from focusing on my main goal. My final dance project was to do a dance to a scene from lion king. My group of friends and i chose the the main hyensa. i was banzai, everyone said i was mean and i needed to be the mean hyena. I was the only one who did art, i was the main one to work on the costumes. I was more focused on our costumes being perfect rtaher than the “big picture” the dance. My group members came up with the dance. I learned the dance the day of the show. I recieved an ok grade, i messed up on parts of the dance which counted for most of our grade. Not the costumes being

Erikson’s (1968, 1980, 1982) psychosocial stages of development provide a framework for the different stages of development throughout the human lifespan. These stages of development begin at birth and continue until death, and separate the lifespan into eight stages based on chronological age. Within these eight different aging stages are corresponding psychosocial stages. Each of these psychosocial stages represent a conflict between two characteristics of development for that particular time period in a person’s life.

Perfectionism is conceptualized as a multidimensional construct (Ayerst, Flett, & Hewitt, 2012). As cited in Ayerst, Flett and Hewitt (2012), Frost, Marten, Lahart and Rosenblate {I am working on getting access to this source} view perfectionism as a cognitive construct focused on concerns about making mistakes, posessing high standards, and doubting one’s actions. Additionally, Frost and colleagues also understood perfectionism as involving two

Do you push yourself to be the best? Do you get mad at yourself for not doing the best? Do you delay assignments till the last possible limit because of fear of rejection? Do you feel horrible when work isn’t done to your best ability of when minor failures seem like catastrophic ones? These are all signs of what is known as perfectionism (Pacht 1984). If you seem to agree with most of these things then you might be a perfectionist. According to Webster’s dictionary, it states that perfectionism is "a disposition which regards anything less than perfect, unacceptable." Many people in the world suffer from perfectionism. So is that case of Mike Bellah. His perfectionism lead him to a lifestyle where he lost

Development of a person throughout his or her whole lifetime can be seen either as a continuous process or as a final status to be attained. Psychologists agree

There are 18 characteristics of self actualizing people. They are percieveing reality efficiently, acceptance of self and others as they are, spontaneous thoughts and actions, being problem centered not self centered, unusual sense of humor, the ability to look at life objectively, creative,resistant to enculturation but not eccentric, conscern for the wealfare of humanity, appreciation for the little things, the ablity to establish deep and meaningful relationships, peak experiences, desire for privacy,

I have always assumed that being a perfectionist was a good thing. From an early age I became enchanted with the “Charlie Sheen mentality;” I had to be “winning,” or at least convince myself that I was. An internal voice encouraged me to be the best that I could be, and failure, quite simply, was not in my vocabulary. However, as I prepared to enter high school, my innate desire to be a perfectionist truly acted as the anchor that slowly weighed me down. I learned that perfection was undeniably unattainable in my life; my devotion to “perfectionism” led me astray on a long, twisting path of deceit. I occupied my time with unchallenging schoolwork and “cheated the system” by electing to compete in the baseball league designed for kids a full year younger than me. As it turns out, trying to be a big fish in a little pond was the way I insulated myself from failure, the way I falsely convinced myself that I was “winning.” I was afraid to try, or rather I was afraid of the possibility that I might try and fail. Attempting something difficult carried the risk of not succeeding, and with it the implication that

In conclusion, a person must go through a series of step/stages to reach “self-actualization.” They must achieve his/his “safety” and “physiological” needs “(basic needs).” “Esteem” and “belongingness and love” needs “(psychological needs)” to reach the stage of “self-actualization.” Psychological theories helps us better understand why a character does what he/she did. Using the psychological theory can help people reach the stage of self-actualization. Although, some may not reach this stage due to natural or un-natural

Self-actualization refers to the desire to achieve one’s greatest potential or as Maslow writes “what a man can be, he must be” (Maslow). Abraham Maslow, a researcher and a pioneer in the field of psychology, strongly believed that people can control their own behavior and have the abilities to reach their full potential. Maslow is perhaps best known for his “Hierarchy of Needs” that culminates in self-actualization. This hierarchy begins with so-called “basic needs” - psychological, safety, social, and esteem - and concludes with the “growth need”. Among other characteristics, Maslow describes self-actualized people as highly creative, independent, genuine individuals who are resistant to enculturation and accept themselves for who

That is something I need to learn to ease up on. I need to learn that not being perfect is alright. I aim to be the best in everything I attempt even if it is something I am not interested in. This is why I study for a long period of time to succeed academically while others are watching TV. Three times a week, I wake up early to walk to the park and train to become an exceptional soccer player despite the fact I train every day at two o’clock (sport-etude). Nevertheless, my standards are so high that I am my harshest critic. I am way too tough on myself, but not to the point where my confidence decreases. I’m trying to learn that perfection isn’t what matters. Actually, it’s the obsession that can destroy me if I let it, considering there are frequent disadvantages as well as

When we do so, self actualisation will occur. Rogers likened this actualisation process to the growth of plants, having an innate tendency to grow from a seed to full potential when exposed to favourable conditions. Rogers believed that for a person to achieve self-actualisation they must be in a state of congruence, thus, self-actualisation occurs when a person’s ideal self is congruent with their actual behaviour and self-image. For the client to self actualise; key principals must be employed during the counselling process. Outlined as follows:

The three theories I have chosen to discuss are all extremely relevant ideas; although I prefer Erik Erikson’s stage of psychosocial development. Erik Erikson’s theory covers a person’s entire lifespan showing the many different stages throughout one’s life. A person is always