You Say Neither, I Say Neither By Clorisa Heckmann

Men and women communicate in very different ways. Men want to see the solution, they want to just get straight to the point and then be done with the situation. Women on the other hand tend to be more detail-oriented before they get to

The typical stereotypes of communication are that women talk more than men, that is not necessarily true. For example, Tannen states, “...another explanation is that men think women talk to much because they hear women talking in situations where men would not: on the telephone; or in social situations with friends, when they are not discussing topics that men find inherently interesting, or; like the couple at the women’s group, at home alone-in other words, in private speaking” (Cooper and MacDonald 11). Men and women have two different conversational styles, different ways of talking. They also have different ideas of what is important and what is not. For example, Tannen points out that the man thought it wasn’t important that his friend was getting married, but the woman had thought that it was important (Cooper and MacDonald 12).

Communication between men and women can be viewed as culturally diverse communication. Truth be told, John Gray in his book, "Men are From Mars, Women are From Venus", recommends that men and ladies convey in such distinctive ways that they appear to be from changed planets. That is the reason it's hard for them to impart and seeing one another. The issue starts in the growing-up years. Men and women experience childhood in distinctive societies, figure out how to talk diverse dialects, and speak with distinctive practices. On account of these social contrasts, they learn diverse lessons as kids, lessons intended to set them up for their grown-up parts. Most young men grew up playing games with one another so they figured out how to interface

Male and female differ in their use of communication because their reasons for communicating are different. Men

Men and Women have different roles and cultures, and differences usually bring difficulty to understand each other. In article “Six Ways Men and Women Communicate”, Drobuck explains dissimilarity between males and females’ ways of communication. He writes “Men and Women desire to satisfy their partners, but they may miss the mark because it is truly difficult to understand and accept our partner’s different ways of communication.” Men are eager to figure out problems when they hear concerns from a partner. Furthermore, they like to have and focus on purpose of conversation. On the other hand, women are more likely to share emotions or make bond of sympathy. During conversation, women want to understand the partner’s feeling, and get rid of

while dating that have or will carry over into a possible marriage. In this case study, I will

Every day, at home or at workplaces, people engage in conversations involving the opposite gender. How does gender play a critical role in a conversation? Reasonings behind the existence of “genderlect” are quite complex. Bill Cosby once said “Men and women belong to different species and communication between them is a science still in it infancy (Eisenberg).” Men and women are born with the same brains. However, the way they function differently when having conversations. When men and women communicate, men mostly use the left side of their brains while women are capable of using both sides explaining the excellent in their multi-tasking skills. Surprisingly, biological differences are not responsible for the genderlect, but the social norms and cultural backgrounds. These factors further differentiate conversations between men and women. Deborah Tannen, professor of linguistics at Georgetown University has written extensively on genderlect in her national best selling book, “You Just Don’t Understand: Women and Men in Conversation.” In her book (Tannen, 1990), she explores in depth about different conversational styles of men and women with relatable examples. She also suggests some steps that could be taken to relieve people’s frustrations towards each other’s differences. Tannen’s focus is mainly on the sociolinguistic side of linguistics and the verbal-communication.

Yesterday when I drive my friend to his house, he told me that their teacher cancel the class without sending them the email. My friend told me what happened to his friends he always use pronouns instead of their names. So when the story has more than one person involved. I always misunderstood what person he’s talking about. This kind of miscommunication are common between the opposite genders. Men and women see the world through different perspective. Their communicate styles are very different. One way to understand how men and women are different is to understand the way they communicate. Deborah Tannen, the university professor and Professor of Linguistics at Georgetown University, explains the different communication styles between men and women in her book You just don 't understand: women and men in conversation. The book gather the research done by Tannen and other experts in 1999. She uses her experience and her observations to explain her theories. Wondering if Tannen’s theories are still accurate in today’s society, I did some research and observation in the San Francisco Bay Area. And I found that most of Tannen 's theories are still accurate today, but some are not.

The second-most prevalent theme of discussion regarding gender communication differences is the study of non-verbal differences. Many of the authors are in agreement about the types and effects of non-verbal communication, resulting in fewer areas of

Gender is one of many reasons why people in this world speak differently and some do believe that it has a great influence over the way in which men and women speak. Gender ties into many other aspects of why we speak differently such as occupation, class and power. These are just a few reasons why men and women speak differently. However many linguists now believe that gender doesn’t play that big of a role In the way we speak because both men and women have grown socially to be accepted in most shapes and forms.

Let’s talk about the basic understanding of language and gender and how each role generally acts during conversation. When it comes to women, communication matters more than men because they like to talk more. They are normally having a caring nature so when it comes to communication that they take each part on what is saying to heart (not to be bios here, all women act differently). This is part of why it tends to lead to miscommunication between the genders on how frequently both the sexes interact with each other. So, if they see each other more that they tend to understand each other since they learned how that person is trying to portray with what they are saying.

Male and Female communication styles are totally different. Men and women appear to be from two different planets. How does communication and culture affect how you communication? I agree, that cultural communication is taught different based on gender? Yes, Females are taught at a very young age to be great listeners and pay close attention to detail. Males on the other hand or taught to leave all the detail stuff to the women. Both way men and women separately are two totally different genders. Male and Female genders have their own background and cultural habits. The difference in genders has created different communion styles. This makes relationships very challenging

According to Stephen Rodgers, “men believe that if one speaks, they ought to say something new, informative, practical and logical.” In many cases if a man doesn’t have something meaningful to say, he chooses not to speak. (Rodgers) I have learned from personal experiences, that the majority of men don’t just talk to talk. I spend a lot of time with dad and he has even said, for example, that if he and a friend go fishing together they are perfectly content just hanging out together. They many not say a word for half an hour and won’t think anything of it. If a woman were to be with a man and he didn’t speak for even 10 minutes, she would think something was wrong

Communication is sometimes difficult to have and I believe that gender does truly play a role.

It has been my own personal experience that men and women communicate differently. This is especially true when put into the context of communication between the two sexes. During my lifetime I have been witness to the different ways in which men and women communicate, and I have decided that communication between the two sexes can be further broken down into types and/or reasons for communication. These types of communication are Professional, Occasional, and Social. From these forms of communication we can further expand which I will do as I come to each scenario.