Win-Win Interaction Case Study

A family of four came into counseling. Frank, 43, who works so much. Emily, 39, who is a mom that works from home part-time. Two daughters, Sarah (10 years old) and Whitney (6 years old). One night, Frank came home from work, and Emily called a family meeting. Sarah has decided that she would like to have a little brother because a friend of Sarah’s is going to have a little brother. Sarah spoke with Emily about how much she would love a little brother. After thinking about it, Emily decided to speak with her husband about having another baby. Frank did not seem like he wanted another baby at his age, and was thinking about doing a little traveling now that the kids are getting a little older. Frank has been leaving town a lot more, causing

Both girl’s Points of View are that the parents don’t attempt to find out any of their interests. The Parent’s Points of View are they feel like they already understand their interests. Since they don’t actually understand their interests in makes tension and causes their children to distance themselves from them. According to the text it says, “We just unpacked and I-I had plans. She raised her eyebrows, surprised. “Plans?”” This proves my thesis because it shows they she didn’t even know that she had friends which

For example in chapters 18 - 19 when Vicky questions Jake about high school Jake turns her down and Alan tells her to leave it, there is three different points of view. As no one feels the same towards conflict is created and is broken by Vicky storming off in tears. Really everyone is entitled to their own opinion but in a schooling situation like this the parents should have all power. The language used during these problems is tense and very personal, the tone is angry, upset and unsure.

Interpersonal conflicts are inevitable. Different texts suggest not how to avoid conflict, but rather how to effectively communicate when involved in one. However, the “rules” of constructive communication can completely change in conflicts between people in long-term, interdependent relationships. This paper will focus on analyzing a conversation between a mother and her adult son, while applying ideas from William Wilmot and Joyce Hocker’s Interpersonal Conflict, Deborah Tannen’s I Only Say This Because I Love You, and the “Conflict Styles” lecture.

She needs everything to be fair and complains when something is not. For instance, both my brother and sister got a computer for their sixteenth birthday but my parents decided I could have an early birthday present. When my sister heard this, she made it very clear that I was not allowed to receive any other presents when it came time for my actual birthday. She reminded my parents and I of this about 10 different times to make herself clear and heard. Lori, being the oldest, feels like she does not get special treatment so neither should her younger siblings. This thought also runs through my sister’s head because she is also the oldest. Lori said this because if her dad had said that Jeannette could bring her rocks, she would have gone back to get more of her many books. This is something my older sister would do as well. I am very familiar with older siblings wanting everything to be fair and I connect with the author in that way. Rose Mary’s mother lived in Phoenix and the author was planning on living with her. However, when she asked if they were going to her house, she was told that her grandmother had died a few months back. When their grandma Smith died, the author’s mother inherited one of two houses so they lived in the one they received. Right away when they reached the house, Rose Mary started up on her art career. Along with the house, they inherited money and Rex landed a

They aren’t agreeing on the same situations. The parents are trying to make good decisions for their kids, even if they don’t like it. Izzy’s mom from “Tortilla Sun” is going back to finish research so she can have a good life and job, but in the process of that, Izzy has to go to New Mexico with her grandmother. Izzy isn’t happy about that, but her mothers just trying to do what is right for her, and her kid. In “Confetti Girl” her father wants her to study and keep up her grades so she can get a good education, but all she wants to do is play soccer. I believe that what really caused all the tension between the kids and parents that they can’t seem to agree on the same thing, but they’re just trying to do the right thing for

Although the differences are numerous mother and daughter reconcile and show how others points of view can enrich your own thinking.

This conflict affected Linda and Josh perhaps more so than another couple because it hit their primary concerns. Linda was hurt because she felt Josh didn't care as much about her as she did for him. And Josh was hurt because he felt that Linda was trying to control him, and limit his freedom. Many women feel that it is expected for them to consult with their partners at every turn, while men automatically make more decisions without asking their partners. Women may try to initiate a relaxed conversation by asking "What do you think?" while men may feel that they are being forced to decide. Tannen states that communication is a continual balancing act, juggling the conflicting needs for intimacy and independence. To survive we need to act with concern for others but also survive for ourselves.

A win-lose orientation assumes that there can only be one winner in a conflict. This type of conflict can cause problems in a relationship, because it is generally followed by dissatisfaction and resentment from the ‘loser’ of the argument (Wood, 2016). The best solution to conflict is a win-win orientation. Everyone involved must be satisfied with the end result, and this may include compromise by both sides.

Places value on individualism, self-assertion, and competition. Not common in cultures that prioritize cooperation, keep others from failing, finding areas of agreement

However, like in most marriage there were times when either party could slip in a comfort zone which can be displeased. The first conflict identified with Judith and her husband was when Judith started feeling her marriage was growing stale. This conflict latent stage was when Brice started working long hours, not spending quality time and not giving Judith the attention she accustoms to. At the latent stage in conflict, people have differences that bother one or the other in ideas, values or need (Brookings, n.d). The conflict emerged when Harley started making advances at Judith which she tried to resist frequently for a long time despite her husband

Even when taking this approach some will still want to play the blame game or argue about who is right. The book suggests three different ways to deal with these situations. First, reframing the conversation into concepts the other person can relate to. Second, when the other party persistently puts the conversation off track, by interrupting or denying emotions, explicitly name that behavior and raise it as an issue for discussion. Finally, when all else fails, listen. The authors state "the single most important rule about managing the interaction is this: you can't move the conversation in a more positive direction until the other person feels heard and understood.” (Stone, Patton, & Heen, 1999, p. 206)

The primary problem is each groups has their own interest and concerns. It appears that each team is struggling with the differences amongst the team. Ultimately, this will hold them back from progression. They all feel that the children are important, but not working together

The topic for my real world negotiation is to come to an agreement with my supervisor for a promotion as well as an increased salary. I currently work as a student assistant at the student services Planning, Enrollment Management, and Student Affairs (PEMSA) department. My goal is to increase my hourly pay from $10.15 to $12.70, a 25% increase. Having worked in this department for three years, I have taken on tasks not part of my job description such as processing return mail, data entry, and supervision.

p.65). In conflicts relational goals need to be realized and managed because they are the center of all conflicts (Wilmot, 2007. p.67) but they are not easily recognized internally or externally, and they are interpreted differently by each party (Wilmot, 2007. p.67). In the reviewed conflict, the parents feel that the children are becoming more independent, and do not care what the parents think or need. The children believe that the parents do not consider the things that are important to the children to be important. Basically, each seems to seek the respect from the other units. The way that each will react throughout the conflict will express how that person believes the other is thinking about them. They will react to an image that they have created of the other person that probably is not accurate (Wilmot, 2007. p.69). Because relationship goals are not easily determined, these goals will escalate.