Balswick On Conflict

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Conflict is present in every marriage and household. Where there are people, you will find conflict. Balswick & Balswick (2014) define conflict as a “difference of opinion” and further explain that conflict is “a normal part of intimate relationships” (p.252). While this may be true, it is also vital to the unity of marriage and family to understand how we can resolve conflicts in healthy and constructive ways, where each individual has the freedom to share their opinion without feeling ignored or dismissed. When conflicts are continuously unresolved, or not dealt with at all, they can become destructive to the marriage and family, leaving a legacy of emotional distress. Conversely, when conflict arises and is dealt with constructively, balancing…show more content…
These issues can be addressed with constructive communication, by admitting their existence and offering solutions. The more serious conflicts may arise from abuse and neglect, and require much more than one singular resolution to heal, it requires grace. Balswick & Balswick (2014) further this point by adding, “Healing, however, can come through the power of faith, which gives victims the extraordinary ability to forgive the wrongs committed against them” (p.255). I would add that God models forgiveness and calls us to do the same. “Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you have a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you” (Colossians 3:13, New International Version). It’s important to mention, denying conflicts, can also add a dimension of destructiveness to relationships and must also be…show more content…
This can be productive if the conflict is addressed at a later time, and is not a habitual style used. 2) Yielding can be useful when one gives into the other persons needs over their own, but watch for martyrs. 3) Winners can use the definitive approach to conflicts and be the final say in certain matters. Balswick & Balswick (2014) caution that this style may lead to “winning the battle (the point), but losing the war (the relationship)” (p.266). 4) Resolvers take the time and offer a cohesive approach where all family member is involved in the conflict. The down side to this conflict management style is it can be time consuming and emotionally taxing on the family members. 5) Compromise according to Balswick & Balswick (2014) can be the best way to approach conflicts and demonstrates flexibility and a relaxed way to deal with minor issues within the family. One caveat, while compromise can be helpful, if overly used, it may lead to
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