While growing up, I did not have to deal with much conflict. The little conflict I had to adhere to was usually constricted within my household. In meaning, if something happened within my household, it was to be kept in my household. My mother did not and still do not like for everyone to be “all in her business.” As I got older, I realized how much I did not like how situations was resolved. Keeping the conflict constricted only made the problem grow larger within the household. Everyone in my household was very strong and opinionated. Therefore, they would stick to their side of the story. There wasn’t any outside voice to settle the disputes. If one would agree with the other side, then the other person would just walk around the house …show more content…
I had a new set of friends and they handled their problems differently from what I was used to. To them, fighting helped them reduce aggression. I remember a saying we would say in middle school “If you don’t like me, fight me” and that’s exactly how I begin handling my conflict. We would fight about the situation and be done. Adding to fighting, I wouldn’t talk through any of the problems that would arise. Due to how I was raised, I didn’t know how to talk about situations and get my point across. Not being able to talk through my problems with people, then adding fighting onto the situation got me into a lot trouble, constantly, in middle …show more content…
Page 151 describes grace as granting forgiveness, putting aside our needs, or helping another save face when no standard says we should or must do so. Instead of being angry and aggressive, I could have been graceful and looked pass the situation. I wasn’t taught how to be graceful when dealing with conflict. Now, if I had a chance to go back in time and practice grace, I would. Now, I know that every situation doesn’t have to end with physical violence or hiding emotions. I learned that when there is a problem, I need to get help outside of my household. That’s how I find better understanding. I have a personal mediator, which is my grandmother. A mediator works with people who are in a conflict to reach a decision but has no power to make a decision (146). With family conflicts, I tend to call my grandmother. She listen to my side, then listen to the other’s side, and then speak from wisdom. When there is a situation outside of my family, I still run to my granny. She usually allow me to see things from other’s perspective. Therefore I am able to have a better understanding in how a situation was constructed. I feel as if I am wiser and I learned how to handle conflicts in a more graceful
Joyce Meyer once said, “A positive attitude gives you power over your circumstances instead of your circumstances having power over you”. Throughout times people have proven that positive thinking will help resolve a conflict. It is good to remain positive to eventually receive a good outcome. When a conflict arises the best way to deal with it is to keep a positive attitude. Many argue that a fight will quickly end a problem but problem but a good example that that is false is the story of Black Ships before Troy.In black ships before Troy they use war to solve their problems.people think that it won't really matter what attitude is presented in a problem. Many would argue that the one side of the argument doesn't care about the attitude about the other person/side..
Conflict is inevitable in any personal relationship or among members of any group. While we encounter many types of conflict in our lifetime, we often look for ways to avoid conflict. So, why do we run away from dealing with our conflict? It is often because many of us fear the conflict will escalate into a situation we will not be able to sustain. “As conflicts escalate, they go through certain incremental transformations. Although these transformations occur separately on each side, they affect the conflict as a whole because they are usually mirrored by the other side. As a result of these transformations, the conflict is intensified in ways that are sometimes exceedingly difficult to undo” (Pruitt, and Kim 89). We
On a crisp autumn day in 2016, while hidden away from the cares of my daily routine in my family room, I was called upon to elaborate on an important aspect of my life. It took some time for consideration to determine how to best portray a journey I have taken in managing conflict, as I am not a young woman. Decades filled with the blessings of being the mother of disabled children, years lived as a single parent, as well as the process of maturation, tempered by the fires of adversity, have molded me into who I am today. As I reflected, I wondered if would I know how to deal with conflict as I do now without the life experiences I have had? Certainly not! The following paragraphs will describe my primary conflict style and why I use it, how I have changed constructively in this area, how the other four styles of conflict management may serve me, and where I hope to arrive as I continue to make my way along the journey of my life.
We all have occasion to disagree with others either at work, in friendships or other social and community interactions, but most of the time, we are able to resolve these disagreements, if not completely amicably, at least to the extent that we can still associate with the person or persons involved. Sadly, this is often not what happens in family disputes, which can quickly escalate into open warfare with neither side wanting to give ground.
A new director decides to reorganize the department you work in. This reorganization comes about without input from the employees and many of the nurses that you oversee are feeling resentful of the change. As a nurse leader, identify factors that may lead to conflict and ways you can manage them.
Conflict is something that people come across in a daily base, conflict is when two or more people do not agree on a specific subject. Conflict can get out of hand when someone comes to a disagreement that leads to an argument and can bring tension. Conflict is seen in different forms by many people depending on its situation. Conflict is seen at work with co-workers, students or customers in different places that we visit every day. However, each person can handle these situations differently in order to resolve the problem. I work in a community college and I take responsibility by helping as many students to continue their education and making it a positive environment for them. I will explain a problem-solving sensitive situation that happened at my place of employment. There was a parent trying to find out her daughter confidential information and was released without her consent. Throughout this paper I will discuss how policy and procedures are very
In the Consensus Paradigm, the are many who are in agreement that marijuana which is used for medical purposes. I also believe that medical marijuana should be legalized because it is a product that helps thousands each year. Research has shown that marijuana oil has helped young children control their seizures. This oil comes from the flowering tops of the plant called hemp and dried leaves, this chemical (THC) in the plant alters the mind (Mikos, 2009). Many agree medical marijuana prescribed by a doctor helps calm people with ailments. There are currently 29 states that have legalized medical marijuana. The stem cells can now be obtained by a new procedure other than the use of embryonic stem cells such as using the cord blood or the use
The contemporary social issue I have selected is the discrimination of Muslims in America. I selected this issue because it appears to be a growing problem in the United States, and I believe it is rooted in racism, making it a two-part issue. Muslim is not a race, but in many Middle Eastern countries, Islam is the majority religion. Even though anyone from any race could be Muslim, it is only Middle Eastern Muslims that are targeted. As someone who is in the social work field, it is distressing for me to see a group of people be treated unjustly and experience many societal challenges based on their faith and race. Conflict theory is one theory that can improve people’s understanding of this issue. One of the main concepts of conflict theory is that “power is unequally divided and some groups dominate others” (Overview of Theories, 2008). In the social issue I chose, white Christians are the dominant group, and they hold more power than Middle Eastern Muslims. Power is not
In Amy tan’s short story called Two Kinds, there are many examples of conflict. These include; Chinese versus American culture, a parent’s wishes versus her child’s wants, and the pursuit of material success versus contentment. However, this essay will only address the conflict between the story’s mother and her daughter’s personalities. Theirs is a struggle with old-world pride against new age independence.name the characters. But the author takes pains to show their good qualities as well, so the story redeems these two characters in the end.
Conflict is defined as the behaviour due to which people differ in their feelings, thought and/or actions. Collins (1995) states that the conflict is a ‘serious disagreement and argument about something important’ and also as ‘a serious difference between two or more beliefs, ideas or interests’ (cf. Kumaraswamy, 1997, p. 96). In general it is believed that conflicts are the underlying cause of disputes. In other words, dispute is a manifestation of the deep rooted conflict. A dispute is defined as ‘a class or kind of conflict, which manifests itself in distinct, justifiable issues. It involves disagreement over issues capable of resolution by negotiation, mediation or third party adjudication’
Conflict is defined as the perception of incompatible goals or actions between two people (McCornack, 2013). How you approach these tense situations greatly affects the outcome of the conflict and your interpersonal relationships. Everyone experiences disagreement at some point in their lives and it is important to know what you bring to conflict situations in order to become a more competent communicator. Therefore, I completed the Thomas-Kilmann Conflict Mode Questionnaire and asked my sister and boyfriend to do the same regarding my conflict style (Introduction to Interpersonal Communication Course Workbook, 2013, p.29-31). I chose these two people to fill out the questionnaire because they both know me very well in two different types
handle it. But we are also loath to admit that we are in the midst of conflict. Parents
Wilmot and Hocker have stated in the Seventh Edition of Interpersonal Conflict that “[c]onflict is more than a disagreement; it is when people believe that another interferes with their interests and goals” (p. 62). When considering conflict, interests and goals are considered the same thing. There are four general types of interests and goals which are topic or content, relational, identity (or facework), and process; these together are easily remembered by using the acronym TRIP(Wilmot, 2007. p.63). To better describe and explain these types of goals, the following personal conflict will be used.
Beaton, Norris, and Pratt (2003) support this by claiming that unresolved issues do not necessarily cause tension in the family. “From our perspective, conflict refers to those issues in relationships that couples overtly verbally or nonverbally express continually” (Beaton, Norris, & Pratt, 2003, p. 144). Although they focus on intergenerational communications within the family, they point out that unresolved issues concerning intergenerational differences can create problems in marital relationships. So it is more important to focus on reasons why individuals choose to create continuous conflict, and why it is so important to impose personal opinions and beliefs on other people. Understanding what determines human behavior is the only way to understand why
Moreover, our families aren’t the only ones who teach us how to deal with conflicts. I have seen plenty people get into fist fights to resolve their problems. Unfortunately, I know for a fact that fighting does not solve anything. It just makes those people look bad. It plays a role in the way I resolve conflicts, because I do not want that type of reputation. When people get into fights, they are given a negative image and are sometimes seen as trashy. This is the total opposite way of how my family deals with conflict. I’ve witnessed the bad attention the people receive and realized that fighting solves nothing. It helped me understand that fighting is something I never want to be involved in. Sometimes it is better to just walk away.