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Conflict Definition Essay

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While growing up, I did not have to deal with much conflict. The little conflict I had to adhere to was usually constricted within my household. In meaning, if something happened within my household, it was to be kept in my household. My mother did not and still do not like for everyone to be “all in her business.” As I got older, I realized how much I did not like how situations was resolved. Keeping the conflict constricted only made the problem grow larger within the household. Everyone in my household was very strong and opinionated. Therefore, they would stick to their side of the story. There wasn’t any outside voice to settle the disputes. If one would agree with the other side, then the other person would just walk around the house …show more content…

I had a new set of friends and they handled their problems differently from what I was used to. To them, fighting helped them reduce aggression. I remember a saying we would say in middle school “If you don’t like me, fight me” and that’s exactly how I begin handling my conflict. We would fight about the situation and be done. Adding to fighting, I wouldn’t talk through any of the problems that would arise. Due to how I was raised, I didn’t know how to talk about situations and get my point across. Not being able to talk through my problems with people, then adding fighting onto the situation got me into a lot trouble, constantly, in middle …show more content…

Page 151 describes grace as granting forgiveness, putting aside our needs, or helping another save face when no standard says we should or must do so. Instead of being angry and aggressive, I could have been graceful and looked pass the situation. I wasn’t taught how to be graceful when dealing with conflict. Now, if I had a chance to go back in time and practice grace, I would. Now, I know that every situation doesn’t have to end with physical violence or hiding emotions. I learned that when there is a problem, I need to get help outside of my household. That’s how I find better understanding. I have a personal mediator, which is my grandmother. A mediator works with people who are in a conflict to reach a decision but has no power to make a decision (146). With family conflicts, I tend to call my grandmother. She listen to my side, then listen to the other’s side, and then speak from wisdom. When there is a situation outside of my family, I still run to my granny. She usually allow me to see things from other’s perspective. Therefore I am able to have a better understanding in how a situation was constructed. I feel as if I am wiser and I learned how to handle conflicts in a more graceful

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