I Have Shaped Who I Am

Why and how does children get bullies in school? Is it necessary to have bullies in school? According to the article “Bullying and Peer Victimization”, Faris discusses the cause of bullies and how it affects their mental health. One cause of bullying is the diversity, which makes a consequence of mental problems. The mental health problems that shows are depression, anger, anxiety, low self-esteem, or low empathy. It is proven that “researchers have found that bullies have significantly lower self-esteem than bystanders (O’Moore & Kirkham, 2001), are more depressed (Roland, 2002), and have lower global self-worth, scholastic competence, social acceptance, and greater behavioral conduct problems (Austin & Joseph, 1996)” (Faris, 2009).

I am sure every sixth-grade class had at least one kid who was the focal point for bullies. The class was a place for bullies to be in “their own spot”. In the fifth grade, I fought against my inability to make friends, so I did things to garner attention. I thought that if I had enough of the class’s attention or the teacher, I would be safe.

The bullies do not attack children who possess self-confidence; social and street practical understanding because they know it would be a losing battle. Most surprise in my case is the bounce and competitiveness that children from free-range environments often apossess. But can dominate about as it the only thing that may grow into independence. Normally academically ahead, socially behind it straight academically, socially behind oftentimes they are years behind in development in comparison to their peers. Of course, when parents excessively infantilize their children, it makes them socially, emotionally, and psychological delay. Even though these children earn high grades, but only if taught to do so, they lack common

In the middle of elementary school, I was starting to be embraced upon a culture of conformity and embarked on adversity trials that helped form my sense of literacy on social interactions and self-identity. The children started to bully me with hurtful words and emotional pressuring me into questioning my own self-identity. I was grown to see the best in others and be kind, yet as time passed I was left hurt without warning. Ever since I was first born, I have always been skinny and my height has only increased towards my approaching adult years. When the physical defense option when being bullied is utterly useless, you are left with a hard conundrum. Towards the last few days of elementary school, I was outside trying to play with the other children. I recently broke my arm in a scooter accident and wasn’t able to play very well, despite I was equally terrible with two fully functional arms. I remember trying so hard to fit in with the “cool” kids at the time, by attempting to play with them. Instead of simply saying I was not welcome, one of the boys through the football as hard as he could into my broke arm. The amount of pain I felt made me burst into tears, as I try to hide behind a tree to hide the shame of crying. As a child, you want to be accepted and feel wanted by others, yet I wasn’t staying true to myself. I was not a great athlete and those children did not like

This viewpoint may seem as an easy and simple solution to someone who has not experienced the full, frontal effects of bullying, but to the abused, it is the hardest solution to choose. Many teenagers have been bullied with harassment during school and cyberbullying outside of school, which proves that bullying has evolved from a kid getting beat up at school to non-stop emotional harassment at home, via the internet (Faris 1). The evolution of bullying not only has evolved into more ways a bully can harass another person but it also has increased how long a person can get bullied, therefore kids feel like they have no safe haven. "Victimization is also significantly related to suicidal ideation, social isolation, anxiety, and depression" (Faris 1). Anyone who has ever been subjected to bullying can develop future feelings of self-doubt, feelings of worthlessness, or in worse case scenarios ideas of suicide and death (Faris 1). Yet, if a victim chooses to not allow the bully to continue to take advantage of them, then scenarios previously stated can be halted. The effects of bullying on young people's mental health are serious and should not be taken lightly, but it does not have to define who that person is or what that person can become if only that person would choose to not let

According to a study, in nearly 25 countries most adolescents who were bullied were associated with poorer psychological and emotional adjustment.

My favorite quote to someone who is being bullied, “ignore the people who is always talking behind your back, that’s where they belong, behind you - unknown.” You often see girls getting bullied over a guy or maybe even clothes because they aren’t name brand. That is sad. Previously, in my English class we watched a movie called “Wonder.” It is about a boy who starts school for the first time going into middle school. He had a face condition, and some kids were scared and made fun of it. He could not help he was like

Many students who are being bullied have bad grades in class and want to drought out of school and having anxiety make it even worse. The article “school bullying and your child life” states that “ bullies often target anxious children to begin with and the process can develop into a vicious cycle that continues to annihilate your child’s mental and even physical health”(Presta). Many kids stay out of school each day because they’re afraid of being bullied. Many Students who have low self-esteem or trouble making friends are often victims of bullies, and students are more likely become victims if they are typically quiet and reserved. Students who feel anxious at school score lower in science and are less satisfied with their life. Many other say that bullying can not only occurs in schools, but also in homes. Older siblings can taunt, tease, and push around younger siblings. Siblings are not the only ones that can abuse their power negatively, but so can Parents. In the article it states,“ Bullying is not just a school issue; it extends past the school walls into the community and might begin in the home”(Garby 2013).

There are many things in the world that can shape a person throughout their lifetime, such as events, games, songs, books, and even people. In my opinion, the following can determine who people become: the environment that they are surrounded by and other people. Other people and the environment are in important in shaping a person. If a person isn’t surrounded by people or weren’t in that environment they wouldn’t be who they are. My parents, childhood bully, teachers, and even my first friends were the people who affected my development. If it weren’t for them, id be somebody else.

In the article “Childhood Bullying Can Leave Lifelong Scars” an assistant clinical professor in the department of psychiatry and behavioral sciences, William Copeland, at Duke University in Durham, N.C. stated, “ If we could set up a culture in schools where this isn’t allowed to happen, then, I think there are a lot of these problems we can avoid ” (Reinberg, 1). He’s right the problems would be avoided, but it’s impossible to completely eliminate the bullying that makes someone feel like an outsider. Sometimes, bullying doesn’t have to be presented for someone to feel like this. At times, it’s the music they enjoy or the style that they like that causes the constant antagonization. Just being different could cause this feeling of not belonging. Often times, people don’t like something different so they will attack it. This attack could be physical, but most times is emotional. There’s always going to be that difference that someone may not

Everyday interactions with bullies can do a number on kids and can lead to some permanent mental health problems, or even suicide in the worst cases. Nonetheless, this isn’t news to anyone, that is why school districts around the U.S. have incorporated Anti-bullying programs into schools to battle the fight against bullies. This means that bullying has been eliminated and is no longer a problem right? wrong. Even though school districts believe that they are catching and combating the issue of bullying by incorporating anti-bullying programs into elementary schools, these programs do little to prevent bullying and assist students who are already a target of ridicule due to unrealistic situations and outcomes used as examples. Because of this half-hearted effort, bullying only intensifies as the students grow older, leading to a miserable middle school/junior high/high school

As a tiny third grader, you would be under the impression they would be all joyful and without a care in the world but I wasn’t one of those kids.. I was bullied all through third grade from getting named called to even sometimes getting physically hurt. My whole life changed back in elementary and as I became older the bullying continued to get worse and with that my anxiety did too. I slowly became quiet whenever anyone tried to talk to me. Constantly hoping the teacher wouldn’t call on me because I was afraid if I answered wrong I’d get laughed at. Stopped eating at school because I was afraid people would start calling me fat again. The worse part of it all was this knot I would continuously get whenever I had to present in front of my classmates or teachers. Gradually, as I became older nothing actually changed except for the fact that I wanted this stupid fear to stop because it was beginning to mess with my everyday life.

It is no secret that children begin to absorb what they are presented with very early on in their childhood. Any form of abuse during the elementary school years can be particularly harmful to a child’s confidence and outlook on life because it is when they are learning and growing their social circles the most. This is a serious matter and can result in the dropping of grades, long-term withdrawal from relationships and self hatred. The question we are presented with here is “What can be done to mitigate bullying in elementary schools?” There are a number of things that can be done to reduce the social problem of bullying early on, but to do this we need to be

Now many have their thought and opinions against what controls a child’s happiness and their emotions but according to studies “Homeschooled kids can dress and act and think the way they want, without fear of ridicule or a need to "fit in." They live in the real world, where lives aren't dictated by adolescent trends and dangerous experimentation.” What I want people to know is that bullying happens in the real world and not just in movies, such as physical, mentally, and emotionally. This could affect how a kid acts or how he does in school like for example, myself. When I got bullied I was scared and tired a lot and didn’t want to have any social interaction with others because of it. My grades dropped and I figured I show look into home schooling. Now I never did home schooling but I know some people that have because of dealing with what I had been through and became a new person.

Elementary school was supposed to be easy, right? I could say academically it was, but emotionally? No. Little kids can be just as cruel as adults. I was never the one to cause problems with anyone else, I was a quiet kid. But there’s always those mean kids in every class, and those mean kids always picked on me. Each day would get harder because of the names that they called me like “Princess Fiona” or “Miss Piggy.” They would always target my weight. I was never skinny as a kid, I was really heavy and it gave bullies an advantage to taunt me. In those moments, I felt weak and bewildered. Some kids might stand up for themselves, others would stay quiet and hurt in silence. Unfortunately, I was hurting in silence. I was young and defenseless. I didn’t know how to stand up for myself and I didn’t have the courage to because I was raised in a household where speaking up could make matters worse, and you wouldn’t be heard. This perception followed me through my whole elementary and middle school years. It impacted my childhood greatly, killing my self esteem. I was mortified and I was always alone.