Understanding the Concept of Self-Esteem
Whether people know it or not, everyone has a self-esteem, but some have better grasps on it than others do. Most people's self-esteem judgments are based on what they value, their beliefs or interests, and the attitudes that they have (Beane, 1993, p. 6). Therefore it is impossible to escape the notion that someone doesn't have a self-esteem.
It is whatever they make it out to be, but not only do they choose their own self-esteem, but others have a big part in deciding it as well. I have two friends who are totally different in every aspect, especially their self-esteem. My one friend Karis has a high self-esteem; she gets good grades, is the star of the volleyball team, and
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6), and Davina seems to have none.
Self-evaluations of a person physical appearance are defiantly linked to self-esteem (Baumeister, 1993, p. 95), and Davina hates the way she looks. She's a beautiful girl and she'd be so much prettier if she smiled once in awhile, but Davina doesn't believe her peers. What a person thinks of himself or herself is going to show through their attitude and behavior
(Beane, 1984, p. 26). It is also determined by what others think.
Friends and relatives can have a great impact on what a person thinks of himself or herself. This can either be good or bad, and in Davina's case, ! it's awful. Since her parents walked out on her, she seems untrusting of everyone except her closest friends. Even then it is hard to get through to her, I think she has given up on herself, making her self-esteem lower than is already is. Karis has nothing but warmth and love at home. Her parents help her study, commend her on her grades, and always brag to their friends about how well she is doing juggling both volleyball and school. On the refrigerator door her parents have put up all the carefully cut out newspaper clipping's that show Karis playing volleyball, her place on the honor roll, and the pictures of her being inducted into the national honor society. This certainly brightens Karis's spirits as she sees how proud her parents really are of her, and I
work. This definitely a start. She’s not out of this dilemma quite yet. She knows
“According to the dictionary definition, To esteem a thing is to prize it, to set a high mental valuation upon it; when applied to persons, esteem carries also the warmer interest of approval, cordiality, and affection” (Blascovich, 1991). Self-esteem is essentially used to not only describe an individual 's sense of self-worth but also there personal value. This is most often times described as a personality trait, requiring validation of ones emotional and behavioral needs that fulfill numerous beliefs about an individuals sense of self. Not only is self-esteem a fundamental need for ones development but it is also significant to ones survival. Self-esteem not only occurs in alliance with an individual 's feelings and behaviors, but also with ones actions and thoughts. “To achieve personal satisfaction, a person has to be able to express his/her real self in social interaction and receive social recognition for it” (Amichai-Hamburger, 2002). If an individual is unable to express themselves, they will attempt to find a structure where she or he will be able to express their needs as well as personality. There levels of shyness as well as self-confidence are not fixed states and are able to be changed over any given amount of time (Manning, 1993).
Most people face self esteem problems at different levels. At some point in life people face this problem without realizing it. In the essay The Trouble with Self-Esteem written by Lauren Slater starts of by demonstrating a test. Self esteem test that determines whether you have a high self-esteem or low self-esteem. The question to be answered however is; what is the value and meaning of self-esteem? The trouble with self-esteem is that not everyone approaches it properly, taking a test or doing research based of a certain group of people is not the way to do so.
4. Why is it important for a parent to create a strong bond with a child
This study examines the relationship between self-monitoring and self-esteem. 150 college students from De La Salle University, Manila participated in this study. By using Self-Monitoring Scale (SMS) and Self-Esteem Rating Scale (SERS), the participants were asked to answer these questionnaires. The ratings from the scales were used to measure participants’ self-monitoring and self-esteem. Based on the results of this study, coherent with the previous studies on the topic, it could be inferred that self-monitoring of a person whether high or low of has a significant effect on self- esteem may it be high or low. Findings show that with r = -0.92, there is a strong relationship between self-monitoring and self-esteem of
There is a lot of things that I have learned about myself in the past few weeks of this course. I have learned many things about myself that I would have never known if it was not for this course. I have learned about my; self concept, attitudes and feelings. I have also learned about social influence, group dynamics and relationships. I learned about myself and how to describe the way that I am and the way that I think.
“Let her be. So all that is in her will not bloom-but in how many does it? There is still enough left to live by” (Olsen 425). Let her become her own person. Let her see life for her own and remind her that there’s always hope because there’s always life.
I was second grader and departing for America, my friend and I were saying goodbye in front of the airport. He shouted to me in a way that everyone could hea r, just before I got inside, that I have to get into the airplane barefooted. I put my shoes in my carriage as he said. I didn't realize single thing before the man next to me burst into laughter and told me that there is no such rule as being barefooted. My friend always was my best friend as we went to the same school, same church and lived in the same apartment. However, my expectation for the airplane was satisfied as they had a television and I was overwhelmed by its enormous size. Unfortunately, I ate some meats and potatoes in the airplane despite my mom's commandment, "don't eat
our choice we make because of what we think. The super ego is why we make certain decisions
Now back home today I learned she has taken a little of my advice and is talking with her mom again. I wish more people would see that approach. Lots of people see it as unrealistic, when it’s one of the most realistic things I now know. So many people now of days need pills to get over depression, or feel the need to always compare how bad life is for them. When it’s all in your hands. You have the power to see it how you want to. So do so, and when you make that switch you will be the light in some one ells
Baker, M. (2010). Developing a Mindset to Help You Make the Most of Challenging Times. Siliconindia, 13(4), 33.
Children and adolescents with low self-esteem are more likely to have problems with peers (Hymal et al., 1990). Furthermore, they are more prone to psychological
think she has any other life to turn to. She has a hard time with good
Insecurity drills a hole into a person’s heart, minimizes their integrity, and accumulates as plaque build up, hindering any kind of future growth. Just as any human being’s growth is stifled by the insecurity within them, the United States as a whole suffers the same from its own tremendous amount of insecurity. This lack of acknowledgement of self-worth causes a ghastly chain reaction; people tend to pursue the wrong ideals, become corrupt, and inevitably lead themselves to their own demise. Insecurity is a route to destruction, and America is speeding down that road to dissolution.
People’s self-esteem either high or low is shaped by their life experiences. I believe a person’s self-esteem begins to take shape at an early age, with their parents being a major influence. Kind, positive, knowledgeable and caring parents help children create a positive self-image. Parents who do not feel good about themselves or others, sometimes take it out on their childern by belittling them or discouraging them. This leads the child down a path of self-doubt and eventually given the right circumstances a lower self-esteem.